I was with my ex bf for 3 years and we even lived together the whole time (i know crazy!). I broke up with him because I realized that he started to take me for granted and wasn't putting enough effort into the relationship. I did so much for him and he did nothing. His parents told him he should try to get me back because I'm such a great girl. He also found out that I was dating other guys. Three months after we broke up he wants to get back togehter now saying that he's changed, he's realized his mistakes and he will treat me better. Do I get back with him? Could he only want me back because he is jealous and he misses me? btw I was his first gf.
2007-11-12 14:59:13 · 15 answers · asked by sapnokirani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OH and ive given him many chances in the past. he will change for a week and go back to his old ways. ppl dont change i guess?
2007-11-12 15:14:33 · update #1
If you still have feelings for him then why not give it a try? You don't have to move in together, just start dating and see if he has changed. Maybe you'll find he is now the perfect man for you, or maybe you'll find you don't want him anymore. Either way, you should give him a chance if you're still interested in him.
Good Luck!
2007-11-12 15:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by geo108 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. 3 years is a long time to be with someone, so he's definitely feeling the loneliness. The fact that you were his first GF also means this is his first break up. He wil most likely say just about anything at this point to try to get you back.
I can't say for sure if he's changed or not, but he will do anything he can to prove to you that he has, regardless of the truth.
2007-11-12 23:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit and talk with him and start by just dating rather than live together until you see the changes in him. The fact that you broke up may have made him wake up so perhaps it will work out but try dating first to see.
2007-11-12 23:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the world guys tend to be slow in relationship but once the favorite toys gone. They tend to be smarter than before. If u do love him, let him have a second time but please let him know that if u don't like it. U will hit the road. Give him a time period. If he tend to pass. Then whenever u say he would be a nice puppy in the future. As what they say about guys. Don't ever treat him too sweet. U must treat him 1 mouth of sweet and another mouth of sour. Good luck.
2007-11-12 23:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by evilsnoopy179 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea i would give him a chance but then make sure he is really going to change once he screws up then just leave him, you deserve more than that for all the things you did for him. I have a friend going through the same thing, things are going good so far, but i told her once he does something wrong just let him go, hes not the only guy on earth
2007-11-12 23:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by MELLY g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you still: 1- love him 2- he is really a good man with kind heart and he never hearted you in the past, yes give him another chance. but this time don't go and live with him. let him fight for you, till he gives you a commitement. in breif get back in relation but don't grant him all what he had before, you know , he must really prove he deserves it
2007-11-12 23:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by HANY E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think that for the normal human being, its extrememly hard to change in 3 months, but thats just me. I guess that just leaves you to decide, its really not a question that n e one els ecan answer for you, because nobody really knows the situation good enoug. only you know how he acted in the relationship, how much effort he put in, how much affection and passion was really there. you have to follow your gut, he might be right and he might not be.
2007-11-12 23:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by jcbaranch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really do like him you should give him a chance.. Because people do realize their mistakes after a while...
2007-11-12 23:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never go back. You left for a reason. That reason is still there.
2007-11-12 23:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by crasher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anne Landers says, ask yourself, "Are you better of with him or without him?"
It also depends on how old are you and what you want to get out of this relationship.
2007-11-12 23:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by wawawebis 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋