My friend is grieving over her boyfriend. How does she get past the anger stage?

Question

She's past denial and now on to anger.

Answer 1

Time. Give her time. A strong shoulder to cry on. Let her be angry. Let her be sad. In time she will come to appreciate the gift of friendship you gave her through this difficult time.

She has to know that he would be terribly hurt if she were hurting so bad. He is and always will be in her heart. In time, she will see the little things he will send to let her know that he is with her and wants her to be happy. It's then, that she will see that she should live on to rejoice in his memory. To honor his memory.
In the meantime, keep holding her hand and being there for her. Let the grieving take place.

Answer 2

The stages of grief have no time limits and no particular order that they have to follow either! Anger can be a very healthy stage for someone to work through. Help your friend to find something constructive/ positive to do with her anger. Being her support is the best thing you can do.

Answer 3

There is a reason they are called stages. We have to do them all to truly recover. Everyone has to do each stage at their own pace. Nobody will handle their own personal stage like anyone else would, nor can they handle it like anyone else tells them they should. You can only be there to listen, to hug, to cry with her, to let her talk whenever she wants about whatever she needs to discuss to get it all processed. You cannot rush it, you can only be a source of such great strength because you care enough for her to write this question. Just be that strength, this will take a long time. It will catch her unaware at the most fleeting moments and overwhelm her for a bit. Help her to catch her breath by just breathing in compassion and breathing out patience towards her. she is going to need a lot. Your kindness is beyond words. Let your friendship be also.

Answer 4

I feel sorry for her because that is exactly what I went through. It took me two years to fully understand what happened. If I think about it now, I still have questions but can better deal with it.

I have a friend who is going through this right now as well.I tell him that meanwhile it sucks, the BEST ADVICE I can give ANYONE is "Time will heal". YES, I know..it sucked. People told me that and I was like "Hell no..."

But that is true. In the meantime, tell her to cry..listen to sad break up songs and let it out of her system. It will be a healthier way to grieve.

Trust me, I got beat up for my ex boyfriend by my own parents and I got over it. Time does heal all wounds.

Answer 5

Anger is just one of the stages one gos throw when we lose a love one. Everyone gos throw these stages at a different rate.
Some people get throw the stages very fast other years.
Be there for your friend and If your friends anger appears to turn in word, they might need help. There are a lot of self help groups out there where they can get help, and a lot of really good short books on how to cope. But don't force it on them as it will turn them away from getting help even if they now they need it. I have been there and I was one of those that took years to get over. My Family thought they were helping and tryed to force me to get help. I stopped talking about him to everyone, and turned in word and pretended to be fine. It took me years to finally come to trims with his death and to be able to move on.
All you can really do is love them and be there for them and if you believe in God Pray for them.

Answer 6

I always had stories where they let their anger out by doing the obvious things like destroying stuff, beating a punching bag or anything like that, releasing their anger on other people, it seems to work with the people I know, but if its was a real serious relationship that lasted for a long time, then she might be mad for a long time.

Answer 7

Anger is a natural phase to go through as long as she is channeling it in a way that is not destructive to her (or to someone else). Just continue to be supportive to her and let her go through the process. If it is beginning to seriously affect her daily functioning and/or health, spirituality, etc, then she should seek out help in order to take care of herself.

Answer 8

First, if he confided in you of his anger issues then you definitely're thoroughly wonderful to speak in self belief to him with your fears of those issues. yet determine you smash it to him gently, as he replaced into possibly only as scared to tell you of his own matters and does not choose for to experience further alienated because of the fact of your cutting-edge fears due on your previous. I do think of ensure to tell him if this is a severe problem for you, because of the fact if this is scaring you that plenty, then this is totally, very possibly that he will have the skill to %. up on it in some way or yet another and, as quickly as lower back, he could experience alienated because of the fact of what he informed you and could no longer know why. Honesty is a severe key to any courting.

Answer 9

Tell her to go to bargaining. That's the next step. Then depression, and finally acceptance. Or simply tell her to get over it. I bet you guys are really young. You've got your whole lives ahead of you and the world does not revolve around this dude. Just keep yourself looking good, throw on some smell good, and walk around like you don't need a man. Then they will come flocking. That drives us crazy.

Answer 10

I assume you are speaking of the death of a loved one? She can only go at her own pace. All you can do, is be a nice supportive friend. Listen to her intently and let her cry on your shoulder if she needs it. It will take time, and that is all we can say.