Can someone lend this poor child a hand...Thank you.?

Question

okay, whats up guys? thank you so much for taking the time to read my question. okay, here is the deal. last year, i didnt do so great in school because you know, i was a lazy bum, i admit it, but thank God that i got my butt back in shape and I want to start with a new goal for my education. yet, it turns out that my dad has been diagnosed with a disease. unfortunately, that gets in the way of my education, because i always to miss school to go with him to his appoinments and stuff. i really dont mind, as long as he is good. but i really cant get my grades up if i am missing so much school. can you guys please give me a suggestion on what i can do? what if i graduate with sucky grades? i am such a screw up.thank you, all your answers are appreciated it. <3

Answer 1

From a mom with experience with 3 kids....all are grown and ages (28,25,23)........

First, bless you bless you!!! You recognize there is a "situation" going on. And, additionally, bless you for caring for your father.

Moving on............First, you need to keep and add all those people into your life that support you........sister,brother, aunt, uncle, grandparents, and friends.

Second..........be sure to "RID" of all those who are negative, bad influences, hard to trust, and don't support your better good.

Third..........talk to a support person to ask them for help (those mentioned above). And, then talk to your school support. That would mean, teachers, school aid/advisors..... COUNSELORS.

Fourth........I personally support ANY therapists, whether it is family, youth...........BUT, specifically your (if you attend church) church advisory....(Therapist, family therapy, youth group leaders).

Fifth.........If you make the moves that I mentioned above, you should gain enough support in all areas to get you through.

I will be a little support to you by saying a prayer for you right now.................then, I want you to know that YOU ARE DEFINITELY NOT A SCREW UP!!! NO ONE IS A SCREW UP THAT RECOGNIZES THEY NEED HELP AND MAKE MOVES TO DO JUST THAT..... JUST AS YOU ARE DOING AT THIS MOMENT. Yahoo Answers is fun, helpful (if you get the honest and true responses).........But, you still need to take the steps above to get the ones that love and care for you most to step in and help you. The big step needs to be taken by you, but, you don't have to take the road all alone.

You are wonderful to support your dad (honor thy parents), and you are only human. Humans make mistakes, but on the same token, humans can correct those mistakes.

Keep going the way you are.............Keep making good choices. There may be some negativity from the missing school and homework, but..............just hold your head high, high, high..........and never give into negativity. Keep positive, and even the bad moments will seem easier.

Keep positive, take the steps above, and give yourself a big pat on the back for doing so.

My deepest wishes and blessings for you............and your dad. Hugs =)

Answer 2

i never finished school and only completed to grade 11.
i have found now that i am a adult that doing TAFE is great.
but the best for me was distance education either through the mail or online.
as this allowed me to do the tasks and exams when i could and fit into my life easierly then i expected.
i have a 2 year old so i know that time can be an issue.
i hope that you can also apply for an scholaship like i did and have the distance education done for free.
the government now also has the skills vochures that you could use also.
hope that helps but many keep doing a great job for him and be proud that you can help and mature enough to do so.
i am sure he is glad your there.

Answer 3

Yes, I think I can give you some pointers. I too, had to go to school while my dad was dying. He passed away when I was 16. So, I do understand what you are saying.

Hun, you are not a "screw-up." You are a devoted daughter and a young woman who wants to succeed, educationally. It is trying to reach that "happy" medium!

Primarily, you need to speak to your parents about your desire for your education and to help with your Dad. If you think this will make your Dad feel bad....it would make him feel worse if he had to see your friends graduating, without you!

I have no clue if you believe in the power of prayer but, I do! I am going to be praying for you and for your family. I ask God that you might be able to find the middle ground you need, to succeed and do what you need to do as a daughter.

God bless you in your endeavor!
Gail

Answer 4

Wow... i was in the same boat last quarter...my dad had to go to the hospital uasully once or twice a week so i hadd all f's i have to work extra hard this quarter and the next 2 to pass the grade...i started riding the bus...if you cant afford it apply for free or reduced lunch and the bus will be free (it is that way here anyway) hope i could help

Answer 5

you're not a screw up for putting family first.
I would do the same except I'm in college so I'd really be screwing myself.

Talk to your dad and see if someone else can go to the appointments with him since you really need to be at school. Also talk to the principal, teachers or guidance at school and see what you can do since you are missing school but have goals and have changed. they may not believe you due to your past but prove them wrong.

Ask teachers for assignments in advance so you can get them in on time, etc.
Teachers WILL work with you as long as you don't waste their time.

Answer 6

Let your teachers know of your current situation and hopefully they will understand and give you different deadlines to make up your work to get your grades raised up. If that doesn't do anything, then try to figure something out with a relative so you and a relative can take turns going with your dad to his appointments so you won't miss as much school.

Answer 7

you could withdrawal form all your classes. or have you teachers give you an incomplete and finish the work within the following semester. If you drop you classes now you could get a note from your dads doctors as evidence that there was an illness in the family that you had to help out with. Talk to your teachers and counselors they will help you.

Answer 8

I actually have a query for ya, if a determine can not have the money for to grant for a new child, then why might they be bringing that new child in the international at the beginning ? women have a decision, and the alternative is have not got intercourse in case you do not want to get pregnant. i'm 40 years old and have not any babies, not with the aid of fact i did not have the prospect, yet with the aid of fact I chosen to not in step with not being waiting financially .

Answer 9

Talk to your counselor as they are there not only for helping you with classes but also personal stuff like this. If you get no satisfaction, then go to the teachers individually and see what they can do to help you...I think if you can prove with a signed slip that you are where you say you are, it will be ok. If you don't get satisfaction there then go to the Assistant principal and tell him you have been to all these people and don't know where else to go but up! If he doesn't help you after you tell him/her all of this then go to the principal and tell him your all that you have done...and if that don't work...tell him you will just have to write a letter to the editor of your local newspaper and ask for advise....this will get done!!! But you must go through the proper channels and that is why you have to go through the steps. If the principal is stupid enough to take you up on your state to write a letter to the editor...WRITE IT! BUT I think that if speak to each of these people with respect and calm, not whinny then you will get your needs met. You should be proud of yourself for helping your Dad, what a great lady you are! I will pray for you and him!

Answer 10

start online schooling or have someone pick up your homeowrk for you and you can get your work done while your dads in the hospital.... or you could get your assignments before you leave to go with your dad... if you know when the appointments are ahead of time.... sorry your dads in bad shape.... the best of luck to the both of you