Seriously, this is getting on my nerves. Everyone on here talks about women in bars like they are the lowest creatures on earth and keep telling me I would be crazy to try to meet them. I don't really have any other options because my town has very few young people, I have to go where they are to find a girl. When I really look at this from a logical perspective, meeting women in bars does not sound bad at all.
Women in bars and clubs are not all sluts (which is really just a sexist stereotype), They are not more diseased than other women (stds are rooted in poverty, not promiscuity; that is a fact), and as far as the belief that women in bars do not want to meet men; that is something that those idiotic pick up artists got started. Every reputible sociologist and dating expert I have ever listened to has said bars and parties are ground zero for male/ female interaction. The guys just have to know what they are doing (which I do). If anyone thinks I am wrong, please let me know.
2007-11-12 14:29:40 · 3 answers · asked by AJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and to my fellow guys, if you have ever watched porn or gone to a wet t-shirt contest (which I know 90% of you have done one), you have no right to be calling women names, especially for just hanging out at a bar.
2007-11-12 14:35:57 · update #1
I agree with you totally. especially since if we belive that about women who go to bars, we should also believe that about the guys who are there as well. the double standard pisses me off. the issue is NOT necessarily where you meet someone, but what effort and care you put into GETTING TO KNOW them. the bar scene is flawed for that because of the MIND FRAME with which people are usually there -- FOR A GOOD TIME and the alcohol enhancement doesn't help. Here's what I suggest -- if you meet someone you think you might like at a bar, suggest to her: "Hey let's get out of here. Wanna grab some dessert?" Believe me, if she's digging you too, she'll be like HECK YEAH!!! Let's get out of here!!! Good luck!
2007-11-12 14:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the other way around, it's a problem for women. Many guys in bars and clubs want to get laid, so it's not recommended for them to meet guys there for long term relationships. I guess this varies in the places you live. If you are in a small town, chances are that the people don't act like sluts and are much more friendlier and respectful since you would know everyone from a small town. In bigger cities, there are lots of players and sluts around.
2007-11-12 22:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a very intelligent young man. livingin a small
town i can see your standpoint very clearly.
i live in a big city and in houston at least i would not
reccomend trying to meet a girl in a bar.in houston
a church social, etc... would make more sense and you
would probably meet a much nicer girl. good luck.
2007-11-12 22:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋