I'm stresssed from weding plans, and this semester college courses. I am trying extra hard to do evrything, and its turning it all wrong! I am failing all my course because I was stupid enough to take a Math and Chem course the same semester. On top of that I've been sick because all the stress. I cannot sleep because I'm always studying, or planning the wedding. I just don't know what to do?
2007-11-12 13:55:57 · 9 answers · asked by Cute Mom of 2 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My mom is helping with the planning. However, I'm a control freak and I worry way too much over the stupidest things. I think I'm just way to emotional because I had day.
2007-11-12 14:11:31 · update #1
Can you get someone else to help with the wedding planning? If push comes to shove, can you change the date of the wedding so that you have more time to plan?
I hate to say it, but school really needs to come first right now.
2007-11-12 14:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by maxmom 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Seriously--FAILING your courses? Making yourself SICK? This is all in anticipation of being Happily Ever After right?
I think you need to sit down and do some serious prioritizing. First off, are you making a mistake? Are you ready to get married? I hate to say this but your body may be trying to tell you something.
This is the HAPPIEST day of your life. And it is making you sick. It sounds as if you are focusing way too much on this one day and very little time on the marriage itself. Calm down. This is a gathering of friends and family. It doesn't have to be perfect. In fact, it will not go "perfect". Nor will your marriage. You've got to deal with stress in your life better. Perhaps seek some counseling to help you deal. This should NOT be destroying your life.
If I were you, I'd delay the wedding. It doesn't sound like you are ready--or at the very least delay it until you graduate so that you have some time to plan. You haven't graduated and if you continue to fail and not be able to sleep--imagine how you will be finals week. Then in the job search. Seriously while you are in school is the least stressful time in your life. You are not handling it well and it doesn't get easier as you graduate, search for jobs, start a new career, have bills to pay.
Just step back. Think about it ok. Remember what invitations say--a joyous occasion uniting this couple. If it's so joyous, why are you so miserable?
2007-11-12 14:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are that much of a control freak that you can't let your mother take some of the burden for you, then you need to postpone your wedding until after school is over.
Are you really stressing over wedding plans??? Or is there something else going on? Is it possible that you really aren't ready to get married? or you dont' WANT to get married? Or maybe you want to wait but don't know how to say it.....
I think you need to really think about what is going on here.
Be honest with yourself....it's perfectly okay to change your mind NOW...before the wedding....
If that's what is going on, speak up sooner rather than later after deposits cannot be refunded and before there are too many hurt feelings.
Planning a wedding is supposed to be fun. But you won't be able to truly enjoy it if you're bogged down with school. My advice is either delegate to someone else, or postpone until school is over.
2007-11-12 14:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down...I have two children getting married this year five months apart. You just have to do one thing at a time focus on that one thing and get it done. Then you can check it off your list. Ask for help! You dont have to do this alone. I use my friends and sisters for help. Nobody minds helping with wedding plans. Yes I have taken on a great deal of both the weddings but I am focusing on the first one in April and then I will concentrate on the second in Sept. Both are very lavish affairs and need a great deal of attention and I work 10 to 12 hrs a day running my own business. So just relax and remember one thing at a time and take a deep breath you need to enjoy this time. Have Fun!!!
2007-11-12 14:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Even without wedding preparations my life is way too hectic and I'm definitely a control freak and major planner. You just need to pace yourself. School is the most important thing so try to focus on that during the week and keep wedding stuff for the weekend. Except for maybe a hour a day during the weekday in case you need to make phone calls to businesses and such.
2007-11-12 14:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. Take a break, even if it's just for a day to get your spirits back up.
Depending on how far away the wedding is, you can put a few of the plans on hold if need be. But really, try not to stress to much. Trust me, once you start walking, nothing really matters except your husband.
2007-11-12 14:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Leinnxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move the Wedding back. This is one reason people should not be in college when they get married. It's too stressful of a time. Worry about finishing your education first.
2007-11-12 14:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by J'adore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...why don't you hold off on the wedding stuff? Family and friends should understand its for the better. You have the rest of your life to do the wedding thing. (It is yours right?)
(....maybe this is a sign you're not ready; things happen for a reason!)
2007-11-12 14:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Only me! 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
get help! you can't do everything by yourself! and take a break and relax 4 a minute if u can!
2007-11-13 11:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♥|Bree. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋