Okay so I like this guy at work. But I'm a very sociable person and I talk to everyone and recently, I was talking with a guy friend and my "crush" came and stood by us but I kept talking with my friend... Anyway. So I saw my "crush" the other day and he didn't talk to me as much as he used to.
I know he sees me talking with alot of the guys. I didn't ever think it would bother him because it's not like we're dating. But then he has this sudden change of mood and I feel like he's mad at me... Gosh, I don't know what's going on. Just let me read your inputs, thanks ;)
2007-11-12 13:20:35 · 33 answers · asked by Ess D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm, maybe hes getting a bit jealous because he secretly likes you and thinks that your not interested in him. And implus when girls are nice and sociable with every guy they meet it makes the guy think if your just being nice to him to.
Try talking to him more then the other guys, going out of your way to talk to him, and putting in a couple of flirtatious comments in sometimes.
2007-11-12 13:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Most guys have a slight problem with fighting for the interest of a woman. Some are turned off by the competition, whether real or not, demonstrated by a girl’s maintaining many varied social relationships with other guys.
If you like the guy, talk to him. However, be aware that this behavior, if not monitored and kept in check with good communication, can have a negative effect on a relationship. Once involved, he may not have a problem with you being social with other men, but if he does, it could indicate jealousy and insecurity.
2007-11-12 13:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by Yuriy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably a little intimidated and may think you are not as interested in him as he thought before. He may feel he has competition even though you are just chatting with a friend who happens to be a guy. He shouldn't be the type that doesn't want you to have any other guy friends. But, when you are in the stages of getting to know each other, he may feel threatened by perceived competition. If you are really interested in this guy, then pay him a little extra special attention to let him know there are no threats. Good luck!
2007-11-12 13:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unfortunately it can. Guys, most of whom fear rejection, just don't want to bother trying to compete with such a large "following". Also, if you show more interest in another guy in front of him (he doesn't necessarily know your feelings for this other guy), that could make him back off/lose hope too.
It also makes a woman seem unapproachable if she is a "social butterfly" at parties and doesn't spend too much time with any one person in one place. Many guys see that as too difficult to deal with and not worth the time.
I'm not saying that your personality is a total problem (outgoing people generally are very attractive if they don't overdo it). But it might be something for you to watch and self-evaluate just to make sure. Remember, guys like their girlfriends to show more attention to them than anyone else (as do women with their boyfriends). Good luck!
2007-11-12 13:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by agrocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... the theory of a guy picking on you because he likes you can turn out to be true and a lot of this points to him liking you. However, actions like "calling for no reason but to push buttoms and blow into the phone" and "hiding in the back of your car" sounds stalkerish and just plain weird. And "getting jealous when you talk about/flirt with other guys" and "grabbing your hand and not letting go until you arm wrestle) sounds obsessive and controlling. Not to mention the fact that he bags out his girlfriend and is glad he doesn't see her - thats just plain mean. If he doesn't want to be with her, he should be honest and upfront and tell her! Personally, I think the guy sounds just plain weird and I would distance myself from him!
2016-05-22 21:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a word: absolutely
more precisely, it depends on how serious your thing is and it depends on the guy .......I won't go into detail, but there's a natural progression in relationships where things like that become important and unimportant based on where you're at.......usually if you are pickin' up what he's puttin down you will know exactly at what point you are at at any given time!
as a general rule, most men with common sense won't seriously pursue a woman he views as too flirty or too sociable.....(every guy's definition varies)..it's just not worth his time or energy...........
it's like eating at a popular crowded restaraunt......the food may be good but is it really worth the trouble? after a 1/2 hour waiting outside for the little pager to go off a hamburger looks just as good...ha!ha!
it sounds chauvenist and insecure........and it is to some degree but it's true, men are insecure, territorial and pride is big....
that's all......
"the bigger headache the bigger the pill.......the bigger the doctor the bigger the bill!" Parliament/Funkadellic
2007-11-12 13:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Funkenstein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will take it personally! If he goes over to see you and you keep talking to the other guy it is a sign that you are not that into him. If you like him you need to tell him, and cut down on all the face time with the other guys, you don't have to stop being friends but you need to show him that you want him not the other guys. We are visual people so your actions will always speak louder then your words.
2007-11-12 13:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by david h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a source of trouble , when you ignored him like that, His reaction is a show that you had better pay some attention to him, or he will figure you are now not that interested in him. Not everyone understands that you have no problem conversing with anyone you want. insecurity is a problem when a woman is more outgoing than the guy.
2007-11-12 13:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, I'm getting a sense that he almost expected you to interrupt your conversation and greet him warmly upon sight but all he got was the priviledge of watching you talk with another guy. Selfish, yes, but that may have been what he was expecting. For us guys, we like to jump to conclusions so it's not encouraging to watch the girl you like talking to other guys like you are closer to the other guy than him. But does all of this matter? Only if you are planning to ask him out and find out whether he is interested in you or not. Good luck and God bless.
2007-11-12 13:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem through all of my relationships. Since I dont have girlfriends (just dont bond with girls), all my friends are guys. And they are really friends! All of my exes in one or another way used to tell me "Why you dont have girlfriends to hang out with? Whu it is always guys?" Having this in the past, Im trying not to repeat this in my current relationships.
I dont know how close you're with your crush. If you just saying hi to each other, or actually talking about things.
If you just ocassionally say hi to each other, than I think its cool that you kept talking to your guy friend, UNLESS your crush wanted to join the conversation, or ask you something - that it would be just unpolite, and really disrespectful in front of your guy friend. Then it would freak out me too.
2007-11-12 13:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anichka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋