what should I do, what should I say? moms please help right now
2007-11-12 13:17:27 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
NO, we weren't having sex and she has never seen one before. She has no brothers, no uncles, only dad. It's all girls in my childhood too, so I have never had to deal with an issue as such.
2007-11-12 14:16:10 · update #1
I'm not a mom...I'm an almost 16 year old girl, who was brought up by a single dad from age 2 to age 7. By age 7, I'd seen my dad naked plenty of times, and it wasn't a big deal. If you're daughter doesn't know about the male anatomy, maybe it's time for her to find out. You don't have to teach her all the facts of life just yet, just that men's bodies are different from women's.
I honestly don't think it's that big of a deal, unless this caused any emotionally distress on her part.
2007-11-12 13:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by EllaBean33 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not a Mom, but I still remember the day I walked in on my dad naked. I dont remember what he looked like or anything, I just remember everyone making a huge deal about it! My best advice: dont make a big deal about it! Say something short and sweet, like I bet Dad looked different to you. Boys and Daddy's look differnent then Girls and Mommy's. Answer any questions she asks, but then move onto something else. More then likely she will think of more questions later if she doesnt ask them at first.
But just dont draw it out, sit her down and make a big deal about it.....because it isnt!
2007-11-12 13:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by Curious-Jo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha ha, that makes me laugh. Be glad you two weren't having sex, right?
I'd take that opportunity to explain some things about how boys and girls are different. How mature she is will depend on how much detail you will give her. Of course you don't want to jump right to the deep birds and bees conversation, just explain the basics and that boys and girls are different on a level she can understand. If you treat the situation weird, she will sense that and feel awkward about things. Just try to be open and honest and only tell her what you feel is appropriate.
Good luck!
2007-11-12 13:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by nic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 3 or 4 when I walked in on my dad and saw, well... everything. It was a rather unpleasant suprise, of course, but it didn't kill me. I'm almost positive that by 7 your daughter knows the anatomical differences between males and females. Somehow kids always find out. I think it's just kind of supposed to happen, I guess.
2007-11-12 13:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tomboy with girly tendencies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how your family has handled nudity/sexuality before. If this is her first glimpse of a penis, I agree that you probably now need to have the talk with her. Kids are naturally curious. And they talk to each other, so who knows what kind of crazy answer she will get and believe.
If your family has been somewhat more open with sexuality/nudity (not obscene or bohemian, but just more nonchalant, then it may not be a big deal. Just ask her if she "surprised Daddy" or "scared Daddy" and see what she says. Then use those parental skills to figure out what to do next.
2007-11-12 13:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by kako 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should use this opportunity to discus the anatomy of the sexes in general. Ask your daughter how she felt. Was she upset or is she just curious? Seeing a parent naked is not a bad thing, and it sounds like this was accidental. The child will take your lead. If you and your husband are freaked out, then she likely will be freaked out. However, if I were you, I wouldn't want my daughter to become ashmed of hers or anybody else's body...
2007-11-12 13:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Knowledgeluster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a big deal. If she asked then tell her the difference between boys and girls. This is really not a big deal. At 7 most children know that they should cover their private parts but make sure you tell her to knock next time because daddy might be changing.
2007-11-12 13:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by livewire 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't over react and freak out. It's natural and normal. Just act like it's no big deal. You could bring up the subject on how girls are different from boys, but do it casually.
If you act all out of sorts she will definitely pick up on it, and you dont' want her to have some future hang up about seeing men naked.
2007-11-12 14:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
how about waiting until she asks a question? I hope she has seen you naked or a brother. Boys and girls are different should take care of it. You not freaking will help
Of course I'm just a dad + granddad
2007-11-12 13:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a dad of an 11 year old girl, Explain to her that is what makes boys and girls different. There should be nothing embarrassing about it. It happens to every one at some point. Either they walk in on you or you walk in on them.
2007-11-12 14:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Bones 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋