Scared of death and death of my loved ones!?

Question

Please relieve me of this HORRIBLE fear!

Answer 1

You need to realize that death is just one of those things no one can escape. Sooner or later, someone you love is going to go through this and there's nothing you can do about it.

All you can do id live for today. Spend time with the people you love, so when their time comes, you'll be thinking of all the wonderful memories you share with them, rather than wondering what if.

Scared or not, you need to understand what that's really about and maybe then you'll look at it better than you see it now.

Answer 2

Psalm 34:4 says "I sought the Lord and He heard me and delivered me from all my fears." I no longer fear death since I asked the Lord into my life many years ago. Read the Bible (New Testament first). God loves you and doesn't want you to be afraid. (Isaiah 41:10). Jesus died for your sins and rose again so that you could have eternal life. Here are some Bible verses to look up: John 3:16, Romans 10:13, Romans 5:8, Romans 3:23. I'll pray for you. Talk to God about all your problems. Once you have a personal relationship with Him, your fears will subside.

Answer 3

Your fear is normal and natural. No matter what anyone tells you, remember that NO ONE knows for sure what happens to any of us when we die. So part of our fears of death are fears of the unknown, and fear of the unknown is human and healthy: such fear can keep us alive by helping us be alert and careful in potentially dangerous situations. It's important that we balance that fear with a confidence that human beings are also RESILIENT and can find lots of creative ways to feel secure and loved, and to recover from losses.

A big part of that is telling the people you love that you love them, and doing things together that you both enjoy, and just generally "staying connected" in your relationships. The prospect of separation from our loved ones--especially the permanent separation of death--can be scary, but even in times of loss there is always something to be grateful for, and something to look forward to, and love to be shared.

It may help you to talk with friends and loved ones about your fears. People who love you can help you know that you are strong and loved and that even if someone you love dies, over time you will be okay.

You might be interested in reading about various religions and how they view death. Buddhism, Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Hinduism, and other religions all have their ways of understanding death and dying, if you read about them you may find some comfort in their ideas.

Know too that you are not alone in your fears. I am almost 40 and I've never met anyone who doesn't have some fear of death and of losing their loved ones. When we share our fears we can comfort and support each other, and that can really help.

I wish you well in coming to terms with one of the most ancient and universal of human fears. May you find some peace and comfort.

Answer 4

I was the same way when I was a child and had horrible nightmares of being buried alive! The difference now? - I became a Christian and, believe it or not, a woman was praying with me and 'knew' about my fear even though I don't talk about it to anyone. She prayed against it and said it was Satan putting that fear into me. So I would recommend that you get prayers for your concern.

Answer 5

i've got lost maximum of my kinfolk individuals already - different than for a cousin elderly 104, i'm the final of my technology in my kinfolk - even my teenagers have emigrated with their families. only us 2 previous codgers left - we save gazing one yet another thinking that stands out as the 1st to pass. i think of he has an concept it truly is me through fact at seventy six he's only began discovering to prepare dinner! i'm no longer waiting to pass yet - so no longer scared yet very unwilling.

Answer 6

This is a phobia related to anxiety disorders. You can take control of them. You need to have a response plan in mind for when a panic attack occurs. Just remember NOT REAL! Grab hold of something solid and concentrate on it, edge of table, arm of chair, those things are real. Remind yourself over and over that your loved ones are fine and it's just an anxiety attack trying to pull one over on you. Practice practice practice. Talk to your dr too. Good luck.

Answer 7

We can't. You need to look at this and ask yourself how realistic it is, be honest.

Also, you need to understand that in life, there is death, no one escapes this earth alive. It is a natural thing, death, and you need to work on understanding that. I know it isn't easy, but the better you cope with it, and deal with it in a mature way, the easier it can be.

If you have a strong believe that everyone who dies goes to Heaven and are with God, and you will see them again, that usually gives people a lot of comfort.

Answer 8

I went through the same thing. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and that was at the root of it. Proper meds and therapy brought me through it. There is help available, contact a doctor/therapist. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE THAT WAY, THERE IS HELP THROUGH PROPER THERAPY.

Answer 9

You have two choices. 1 (best) accept Jesus' free gift of salvation and know that heaven awaits or 2) don't come to know Jesus and go to hell when you die