ok well im pretty confident in myself when im around ppl i know really well and feel comfortable around. but once i get around ppl who i don't know very well i get very self conscious and my mind freezes up so whenever someone talks to me i have really simple boring responses because i can't think of anything else to say. Its really annoying cuz there's this guy in my science class that i like and i really want to talk to more but i never know waht to say becuase im always afraid that im going to make a fool out of myself.
any advice or tips on how to be more confident around other ppl and more extroverted???
2007-11-12 12:42:39 · 22 answers · asked by little miss sunshine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take a deep breath and exhale then start talking to the people who make you nervous; practice makes perfect.
2007-11-12 12:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫Tweedle Dee♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just be happy with yourself. You know who you are and what you are worth. You know that you have a lot to offer to people and that you are a great person so there is really no reason no t have confidence. be happy with who you are and if you think you need improvements in your personality then go for it. About the guy you like don't waste your time wishing or thinking of what would have happened, if you want something try your best, go for it and see what happens. It would be worse to see life pass you by without having have done anything for yourself or to realize you wasted too much of your life just lacking confidence in yourself when everyone else around you already now what great of a person you are.
2007-11-12 12:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not the only one with this problem, to be quite frank. Almost everyone experiences a lower sense of confidence, when talking to someone new, but it's easy to overcome and it justs needs some time.
My advice is to practice. I'm sure your thinking that my answer is a bit odd, but as the saying goes 'Practice makes perfect.' What I mean by 'practice' is, talk to people you don't know a bit more.
It's not hard to do, and I'm sure it will give you that extra boost of confidence to talk to your classmate. You don't really have to get into a long conversation of blubber with someone you don't know. Just say hello to people, ask them how they are, etc. If it doesn't work for you, I'm sure you'll overcome your feelings sooner or later, or maybe, people on here will give you another suggestion.
Goodluck and I really do hope you can overcome your self-confidence issue.
2007-11-12 12:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by «-Ama-Nikki-» 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is remember that everyone else is in the same boat, so you may as well just relax. Being comfortable in your own skin will exude confidence to others. It will draw them in. Be cool with who you are, and everything else will fall into place. If you can't find the words, just be friendly and ask them normal, everyday questions. People, especially guys, tend to like to talk about themselves. If you keep the attention on them for awhile, it will buy you time to get comfortable with the conversation. Before long, you won't be nervous. Hope this helps. :o)
2007-11-12 12:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 37 now but I was just like you 15 yrs ago. After falling on my face a few times I lost a promotion at work because my ideas were being presented by someone else because I just couldn't speak up to the boss.
So a little old lady that I knew told me, "Honey, fake it till you make it". I tried it when out with my friends and got asked out, I tried to not care what my boss thought of me or if he fired me and I spoke up with a twist on his latest idea that needed a twist and got control of the project.
I faked it until I made it and then it just became easier. Now, I don't fake it anymore. I know that I can do whatever I want, I just have to do the work.
So my advice to you is:
Honey, Fake it till you make it!"
2007-11-12 12:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to feel good about yourself, with or without people that are familiar to you. Dress in your favorite outfit. Put on your favorite make up. And you shouldn't care what anyone else thinks! Being yourself is the most important part of being confident!
2007-11-12 12:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does come with time. Just try talking to people and try again. Take it from a once-reclusive person. The older you get, the more you understand people and how they work and the better you will be at expressing yourself in front of them.
2007-11-12 12:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about the above comment. It's really simple: all you have to do is be yourself. Just talk to him and don't think about it so much, you don't need to be embarressed or self concious, especially if you like him. If he likes you for who you are then there's nothing to worry about, if he doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be. Either way, you can't lose.
2007-11-12 12:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i have the same problem...it feels really wierd and akward ..although one thing ive recently been told that kinda helped is that you could Comment on an item that you both share in your immediate surroundings such ad being in line for lunch or something...by focousing on an item you both might experience, you remove any akwardness in a wierd comment...thats something that kinda helped me but if you find a real good way to solve your problem, i hope you share them with me....well i hope you best of luck!!^_^
2007-11-12 12:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are a couple of resources that might be of use to you...
"How to Become More Confident at Making Conversation":
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/how-to-become-more-confident-at-making-conversation.html
Video:
http://www.videojug.com/film/how-can-i-look-more-confident
2007-11-12 12:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by pumpkinhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋