I think my boyfriend is cheating, but I'm not sure.?

Question

I was driving my boyfriend's car earlier today and I noticed a condom in the door of the driver's side but I know we don't use them because we are trying to have a baby. I confronted him about it and he said it was his friends but I know he doesn't like anyone driving his car so I don't know if I should believe him or not. Would you believe a guy was cheating if you found something like that?

Answer 1

Why are you trying to conceive if you aren't committed (married)?

Yes - he is cheating....Don't believe him! He ISN'T GOING TO ADMIT THAT THE CONDOM IS HIS.

Answer 2

Well, he could be lying or he could be telling the truth. It's really up to you to decide. There are some signs of cheating, here are some of them:

* Your mate withdraws or distances themselves from you.
* Your mate flirts with other women.
* There is lots of anger in the relationship.
* Communication between you no longer/barely exists.
* You no longer openly discuss your problems.
* Disagreements are left unresolved.
* Your mate makes sexual comments about other people.
* Your mate does spur of the moment things without considering the consequences.
* Your mate inappropriately touches others.
* You constantly catch your mate in lies.
* Your mate is acting unsatisfied in your relationship.
* There are suspicious actions such as your mate is not including you in various activities or he is coming home late in clothes that he was not wearing when he left.

Although these signs can be telling, it's not to say that your spouse/mate is cheating for sure. The only way to know for sure is to get complete proof or a confession. It would be wrong to accuse your mate based upon these guidelines unless you have proof or your intuition is always right.

Another question to ask is how did he react when you brought up the condom? Most liars make little or no eye contact and they usually try to change the subject as soon as possible. Also, usually only a guilty person goes on the defensive. An innocent person will almost always go on the offensive.

Here is a website that I think will really help you out. It tells you how to get the truth out of anyone and how to tell if you are being lied to.

http://www.mindpowernews.com/NeverBeLiedToAgain.htm

Check it out. I'm sure it will help you out in this situation and in more to come, even if they are not related.

Answer 3

Well if you are not sure maybe you should hold off on the
baby making. You are a smart girl think about it you say
he doesn't like others drive his car and you find a condom?
So you know what the truth is. The thought is usually if
you think someone is cheating they usually are.
Is this the man you want to father your child? You need to
trust him and if you wonder well then .... If he fathers your
child he will be in your life until your child is 18. You need to take some time and think about it and ask him what type
of committment he will make to you and your baby?
Will he be faithful? Can he be faithful? Anyone can
make a baby but the child needs a real dad.

Answer 4

First of all DO NOT have a baby with him unless you are MARRIED to him! He is not obligated to you unless you are married! Secondly, if you feel in your heart that he is lying to you, leave him alone, let him go. Having a baby by a man that lies, cheats and obviously does not care about your feelings, will lead you to nothing but pain heartache and being a single mother, with a deadbeat as the baby's father.

Answer 5

First of all - you should stop trying to have a baby if you don't completely trust your boyfriend. I think you need to do a little snooping around. If he is that careless there will be other clues. Sorry I know that is probably not what you want to hear but you asked.

Answer 6

I think he's probably cheating. You should grill him for specifics. you should have done it before he had time to prep a friend. You should have asked him which friend, and when he told you, you should have called that friend immediately and asked when was he driving that car and why did he leave a condom there.

Answer 7

I think that you ought to take his word for it! Every guy has a condom in his wallet, it is just a standard thing for them. It could have fallen out.

I think that you need to be upfront with him, but in an non accusing way, because he will just get defensive.

Talk to him and tell him that you need to upfront and honest in your relationship if you ever want trust and if you are going to raise a child together.

Good luck!! xox

Answer 8

Here is something if he has ever accused you of cheating before u found the condom then the answer is YES. …. I do not know why but cheater try to justify there actions and usllay acuse there bf or gf before they our caught doing it themselves. But if he hasn’t and there isn’t large unexplained time he was missing then I have faith

Answer 9

You know what they say, If you think he's cheating... he is! DO NOT GET PREGNANT by this loser. You deserve better! Having a baby will make things harder, not easier, for everyone involved. Wait a year and if you are still together and you can trust him then have a baby.

Answer 10

I wouldn't believe him, but more importantly don't continue trying to conceive with him if you don't trust him. If you're uncertain now, you'll go through hell when you're pregnant: hormones, body issues, dependency, and insecurity are just a few of the things we can go through when pregnant.

Might be time to take a step back an evaluate.

Answer 11

Well i found two flaws in your argument. one, you said that he doesn't like anyone to drive his car. yet, you were driving it. two, you ask the board "should you believe him"? well honestly, the question is: should you still be trying to have a baby with him if you do NOT believe him?