He is a horrible kisser.. And I really don't find kissing him appealing!
I know I was his first time, but that was a month ago. I think, on average, we kiss atleast 7 times a week.
This is a lot of practise, mates.
What should I do?
I know this sounds superficial.. but I don't want my kisses ot be forced and PRETEND I enjoyed it.
2007-11-12 12:28:14 · 42 answers · asked by Mel L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Woah woah woah people.
Just because he's a bad kisser, doesn't mean I don't care about him.
I care about him a lot.
And 7 times a week might not be a lot for you..
But I was talking about full on, making out.
7 times a week.
And yes, I find HIM appealing..
He just doesn't know how to work his mouth.
:p
And I'm obviously not going to break up with him for some thing so superficial. I care about him to much.
P.S. Taking the lead.. hmh. How would I do that, extacly?
2007-11-12 12:44:41 · update #1
Be honest and open. If you can't be honest now you can not be honest later. Tell him what you are feeling and show him how you want to be kissed. You may find a silver lining after all.
2007-11-12 12:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by undyingrage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, ironic. You are asking about what it would be like to lose your virginity but now you are complaining because the guy you like and are dating doesn't know what he is doing? If you were about to have sex with him, how would you feel? If you did it wrong (by his standards) how would you want him to handle the situation? Probably by talking to you about it, being respectful, kind, and just telling each other what they think. That's what you have to do with him. Just sit him down, let him know there's a problem so he can do something about it, and just practice with him. If he is kissing you all the time he doesn't know there is something wrong since you are kissing back, but if he does he'll try to change what he's doing to make you happy. Either just give him some soft guidance, with the praise and compliment approach, where you tell him what he is improving on and still needs work on, or just make him sit still and model on his mouth what you want him to do back to you. Note, this is not necessarily approving of the make-out scenario, depending on your ages and how long you have been dating. I do not want to get into details, but I am old-fashioned and take a lot into account with meaningful relationships and making sure my physical actions actually mean something, not just my pleasure.
2007-11-13 02:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by sir_richard_the_third333333333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's not the best kisser doesn't mean anything! See the way he looks at u, helps u with situations, talks 2 u, and how caring he is 2 u. That's what's important is that he cares about u(loves u)and unfortunately u're not doing a great job of that right now!
U can't change the way people r and u need 2 accept that.
2007-11-12 12:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Adreanna A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be "forcing" your kisses. They should be natural and happen when you both feel comfortable. You said you don't find kissing him appealing. Maybe you don't find HIM appealing. Take a step back and think about what you really want and don't settle for less. I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found my price charming.
2007-11-12 12:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing is not at all the whole part of a relationship, but it is an important part of it! If you've kissed him several times, and there's still no flare or sparks... than maybe he's not the one for you. I hope that I helped!
~Princess Yue
2007-11-12 12:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this....
you don't have to say anything to him, just guide him.
while he's kissing you, take control of the kiss and do it to him how you want it to be done to you. After a while he'll get the idea that how you like to kiss, and everything should be perfect..-:)
I had to do that with my gf.. lol
2007-11-12 12:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by everydayfyi.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do him a big favor and tell him that his kissing needs improvement and you are going to teach him how you like to be kissed. He will not only love you but remember you forever for that.... !!!! :)) I hope you have the courage to do that!!
2007-11-12 12:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by la dolce vita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?! 7 times a week, that's it?? If you really care about him just give him some time to work on it.. or tell him he sucks and tell him what to do to make it more enjoyable for the both of you..
2007-11-12 12:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How strange? You are horrified and still you call him your friend. Either you yourself are enjoying horrified by him or you are not seriously seeking advice against this horror.
You better ask him NOT to kiss you like that or be happy with his horror.
2007-11-12 12:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation... have you tried telling him how you like to be kissed?
be gentle with him...tell him how you like to be kissed... If it just doesnt get any better then he may not be the one.
I empathize and i know its not fun when the kisses aren't very good.
but i dont agree with telling one of his friends giving him some hints..DO NOT tell his friends that he cannot kiss...you have to do this.
2007-11-12 12:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋