I am a 35 year old returning student at a community college. I am attracted to my math professor and I think the feeling is mutual. How do I go about approaching him about seeing him outside of school?
2007-11-12 11:59:36 · 51 answers · asked by gentlehands 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is one of those rare occasions when the first move is still absolutely up to him. You are not a teenager who ought to be positively prevented from getting into a relationship that could become as complicated as this and I suppose that you know all about the problems inherent in dating someone you work with or worse, under the authority of....but if you are the one to do the approaching then you may find that you have misread him and that he is not happy to continue as your teacher ..or that he is perfectly willing to have an affair instigated by a student because he won't have to see her again after the end of the academic year. If he is interested then he will let you know and hopefully give you some idea of the nature of the relationship he want to pursue...until then leave well alone.
2007-11-12 12:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by selina.evans 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you're in love with him, don't risk getting him fired and giving him a bad reputation. Even if you are in love, you still have an obligation, a duty to protect those you love. He's still young and could move up and become a professor in a university, or go on and do better things. A blemish like this could ruin his chances for a better career. Don't be selfish for "attraction".
2007-11-12 12:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lovey 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She could possibly just think you are pretty and or a nice person. However, if she attempts any type of extended eye contact with you ( more then a few seconds at a time ) then I would say yes, she likely likes you.
2016-03-14 11:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 99% sure that it is against the school policy for teachers to have a relationship with their students outside school, so be careful.
2007-11-12 12:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by lpfan1018 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie. You would do good to wait until You graduate to have Your fun. If someone was to find out, there is a great chance that BOTH of Your azz's would end up in jail. Avoid it for now!!
I know it's tempting!
2007-11-12 12:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Eeeeek! NO!!! In university, there were a bunch of girls sleeping with a married professor all believing that he was a great guy. Little did they know that he was a creep.
I'd wait until you weren't in his class. You wouldn't want people to ask how you earned your 'A', would you?
2007-11-12 12:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Penny ~ Baby #1 due Jan 4 2009 ~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. At least not while you're still taking his class. If you feel a genuine strong attraction for him you really need to consider his career here---I don't think he'd be up for losing his job in order to date one of his students. If you still feel strongly for him you can possibly ask him out AFTER you're done taking his class. I wouldn't approach him at all, but it's entirely up to you.
2007-11-12 12:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You don't! It's unethical for a professor to date his students. Don't put him in that position. When you're done with college and you're not going there any more then you could approach him. :--#)
2007-11-12 12:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well i wouldnt reccomend you making a move on him. Many universities have strict student proffesor realtionship rules. He may lose his job if you guys start dating
2007-11-12 12:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Brandon A 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, make sure he's not married. Let him do the asking, because he could be a cheating kind of guy.
Also, why do you think "that the feeling is mutual? Anything said to you to make you think this?
Just don't get involved - he sounds married -
2007-11-12 12:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by mhbatd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋