I am very happy with my life right now... I don't see a reason to change ANYTHING. But my mother insists that my life will NEVER be complete without having a baby. WHY? PLEASE..What are the goods and the bads on raising children?
2007-11-12 11:20:41 · 17 answers · asked by Nikki 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sleepless nights is a phase they go through. They actually nap, sure they cry because they cannot talk yet. They are humans afterall just smaller in size. People seem to forget that sometimes. My mom loves being a grandma. There are no 'bads' in raising kids. Kids are all different just like you and I are different but the same, because we are on this earth for a reason and we are human. Right? yeah I thought so. If you are not wanting a child that is your choice. I was 29 when I had my son. I NEVER thought I wanted children until he came along seriously. My whole world changed everything about kids. I loved seeing my son's firsts. I loved taking pictures of him sitting up for the first time or standing for the first time. his first tooth. My son was an awesome baby. He was always smiling and laughing. He was absolutely adorable when he was a year and a half old. He is a beautiful child with an old soul in him. It is up to you if you want children or not, or else I am just going to go on and on and on about my son. YOU can be complete how you want to run your life, with or without a child in your life. Don't you ever get sick, don't you go to the doctor? Were you ever a kid? Yeah I thought so.
2007-11-12 11:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off u are the only one that can decide whether u want kids or not. If u are not ready then u aren't ready. But let just say I wasn't ready to be a mom yet when I found out I was pregnant back in 2001...I wouldn't change a thing though..I have 2 kids now and am happier than I ever thought I would be.
a few goods are watching them grow up and learn, seeing there face light up with a smile, hearing them laugh,u will grow with your child and your child will teach u new things. Yeah sometimes they fight with ya and cry and when babies u have to change diapers and go through potty training but its all worth it...there love is worth it. Whenever I am sad my kids brighten my day by makin me laugh or given me a hug. and sometimes it seems like they don't care but when u get sick or aren't feelin well they ask how u are.. they want to make u feel better.
Now kids are not for everyone and maybe you are one of those people..I don't know but I can tell u how mine make me feel.
2007-11-12 23:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by intensity92000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know what your mother is insane!! nah just kidding i have four and they are great but if you are happy where you are right now whats the rush you still have a pulse,
do what you need to do while you are young (unless you are 40) there are no rules, some people are born mothers others are not, thats not saying that you don't like kids its just you are happy doing your own thing and thats fantastic.
you don't have to have kids to be whole you should feel .complete before you have kids or you may resent not
doing what you always wanted goods and bad, good everything really and the bad well no time to yourself, can't always go out cause your babysitter wants to come too, there is good and bad in every situation single married kids no kids just you live!
2007-11-12 19:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult question because there are such emotions involved. I can understand your mother feeling that way but you shouldn't have children simply to please your mother. It's a long term commitment and the responsibility would be yours.
We weren't able to have children and although at the time it was devastating, I no longer feel there's anything missing in my life. There are other ways of enjoying the company of youngsters than having them yourself.
Do what feels right for you and your partner. Having children is a wonderful privilege but it is possible to have a fulfilling life without them.
Go with your instincts!
2007-11-16 18:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Cheddar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a personal decision, only you can make. I will tell you that my children have given me purpose that I didn't even know I was missing. My children have helped me to experience the most intense feelings of love and pain, hope and fear. I was happy before I had my kids (they are now 8,6, and 3). I love my husband more than anything. I love being with him. I love who he is, I love who he is becoming. I wanted to expand on that. Together, we brought into this world three little miracles. They drive me nuts on a regular basis, they make me cry, and they make me laugh like never before.
All that said, let me tell you how I was awakened this morning. My son (3 years old) snuck into my bed last night. I was awakened this morning by him giving me approximately 100 kisses on my nose. There is not another thing on this earth that is more worth waking up for and to.
It is a huge responsiblity. It is hard. You will feel like a bad mom daily, as they get older especially. But the moments suddenly are turned into memories, just because I have my babies.
2007-11-12 19:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life will be just as complete without having a baby. You will have time to check off more thing off your "ToDo" list, like visit Costa Rica or other things like that.
I have a passport full of stamps as a result of not having children. Hook up with a great man that feels the same, and do things together!
2007-11-15 13:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not have kids because your mom says you should have kids.
Lots of people go through life without having any kids, others have 17, so it all evens out.
There may come a time when YOU want to have children.... and then of course you don't need to be convinced one way or the other. Don't let your mom (or Y!A) try to convince you to do something you don't want to do though. Everyone ends up regretting it.
2007-11-12 19:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother just wants grandchildren. Only you can decide of your life will not be complete with out kids. Tell your mom you love her but to please back off about it. She isn't the one that will be raising then. When the time is right for kids you will know it and you will not be able to get rid of the urge to reproduce. There is something that takes hold of you that you cant control.
2007-11-12 19:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has given into society pressure. You appear to immune to this. Good for you. You have made the right choice.
Having children no more makes your life complete than being diagnosed with cancer.
2007-11-13 06:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Professional Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are pros & cons. it's nice to have a child , pure joy & fun ( but what about sleepless nights, what if the child gets sick, when the child becomes a teenager etc.) . The most important thing is, you have to be ready to be a parent. How are you going to raise the child, family values & your principles play a vital role in raising a child. don't listen to your mom. She is not practically raising your child. She's just bored & wanted to have fun. Take her to an amusement park!
2007-11-12 19:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋