So for Thanksgiving my aunt offered for my husband and I to stay w/ her. Well I thought it was great. Thing is my husband wanted to get a hotel. We talked about it and I thought it sounded like a lot of fun. It would be a little vacation for us (we've never had a honeymoon). We kinda wanted to go to the pool and relax in a big comfy bed ('cause it would be a lot more comfortable).
My aunt is trying to save us money. How do I thank her but tell her we'll be staying somewhere else w/ out offending her?
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2007-11-12 11:18:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am an aunt of young adults, some married. I offer them to stay with me whenever they're around. It would make me perfectly happy if they said "thank you, but we want to stay in a hotel this time, we think it will be fun to go to the pool and play honeymoon." It would not hurt my feelings, I would be pleased to see them able to do things independently.
Something extra nice you could do, if it's a motel with a big buffet breakfast, is to ask them to come have breakfast with you (you arrange to pay for it with your room). They'll love you for it.
2007-11-12 11:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by noname 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your aunt exactly what you've written here: that you appreciate the offer, but since you two never had an opportunity to have a honeymoon, you thought it would be fun to stay in a hotel and get pampered. I'm sure she'll understand. It's better to be upfront and honest than try to cover tracks only for her to find out and be hurt.
2007-11-12 19:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just thank her, tell her you were planning on turning the trip into a mini-honeymoon and let it go at that! She'll understand...
Have fun in your big comfy bed & pool. Try to get a room with a jacuzzi, if you can, it'll be even more fun!
2007-11-12 19:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, just tell her that you really appreciate the wonderful gesture but you and your husband are wanting to make a mini honeymoon out of this. Also mention that you know how hard it is to have guests when she is trying to get ready for Thanksgiving. I'm sure she will understand.
2007-11-12 19:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by sinnyloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It would be a little vacation for us (we've never had a honeymoon). We kinda wanted to go to the pool and relax in a big comfy bed ('cause it would be a lot more comfortable). "
Tell her this EXACTLY!
Have fun on your "honeymoon"!
2007-11-12 19:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your aunt. Tell her that when you mentioned visiting the area to your husband, he said that he wanted to have a little "getaway" just for the 2 of you...remind her that you didn't have a honeymoon and this might make up for that a little.
If she is any kind of reasonable adult (and I bet she is) she will understand. I would present her with a little gift to show your appreciation and for changing plans....maybe a nick-knack, pretty picture frame or a vase.
Hope that helps.
2007-11-12 20:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you appreciate her kindness, but you and your husband want to have some special romantic time together, just the two of you, over your holiday. You know, put it in a way that makes it clear without being smutty about it. If she gets offended about the idea that a busy young couple perfers wallowing in marital intimacy to saving money in her guest room, then she gets offended much too easily. She will either get over it or die offended.
2007-11-12 19:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you LOVE her for making the offer, but that you and your husband WANT to go to the hotel because you are planning a "second honeymoon" weekend with each other... a weekend full of romane... she SHOULD understand that... and might even send you over a bottle of champagne if you tell her which hotel ......
2007-11-12 19:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth,you appreciate her offer but you guys really need this because you are always so busy and it is something you are really looking forward to. Explain to her that you guys never have this kind of opportunity and you really need to take advantage of it. Or you can say that you are so sorry but your husband set it all up for you as a surprise and you do not want to offend him. I think it sounds great and hopefully she will understand. Good luck
2007-11-12 19:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by feeona 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should explain to your aunt that this year has been a hard year for you and tell her you appreciate everything, but just say you and your husband want to get away for awhile, just have some time to kick back. Tell her that relaxing by a pool would help you relieve stress for you and your husband around the holidays.
hope that helps =]
2007-11-12 19:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel :] 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋