I slept with another man cuz my husband slept with another woman but now we have secret sex what should I do?

Answer 1

have sex with me immediately or I will tell your husband!

Just have a bit of repect for each other and get a divorce. You both obviously lost the trust/love thing, why drag it out into further ugliness.

Answer 2

I'm sure you know that 2 wrongs don't make a right but what's done is done. Now you have to ask yourself why do you continue to do this, is it because you just don't love your husband anymore? Do you feel that maybe just maybe your husband is still cheating on you? Would you rather be with this other man instead of your husband? What you should do is that if you want to continue this thing with this other man you need to break it off (divorce) with your husband. Think about it can you actually see your life with this other man or can you honestly still see yourself and your husband in future without all this cheating? Whatever you do, do what's right and break it off with one of them. If you can't make up your mind ...Think of it like this be with the one who loves you not the one you love (in time you may grow to love him) because the one who loves you will love and respect you and treat you the best. The one you love just might treat you like sh*t, not respect you to the fullest, and not get what you need out of life (besides sex). Let me ask has your husband abused you in any way? If you answer yes than leave him right , maybe that's way you can't stop seeing the other one.

Answer 3

Ask for forgiveness.
Tell the secret guy, your done, and be sure you are done. This is exactly what destroys marriages. It can not build them up.
Now, either work on being the best mate for your husband that you have ever been or together decide that because of the side line cheating you must end the marriage.

Good Luck!!

Answer 4

cheating, in my eyes, is unforgiveable. when you found out about your husband, my first instinct is to end it. especially if you weren't really that hurt by it, thats not a good sign. if you were, and sleeping with another guy was out of revenge, reflect on the issue and see if you're willing to work it out with your husband.

beware, secret sex is addictive, so dont get hooked. if you are going to work this out with your husband, you've got to be completely honest about what youve been doing or else you wont feel liberated emotionally.

if things dont work out, just make sure that in future relationships having a lover doesnt become a habit. if you start to fall in love with the guy you're sleeping with on the side, bear in mind he knows he's sleeping with a taken woman and would probably be promiscuous in his own relationship.

Answer 5

Have you been honest with your husband. I see why you did it, you're hurt by his actions. When a relationship does not try to keep their sex life healthy. it does become a problem. Then when you find that "new", exciting sex, it's hard to give it up. You and your husband can have that sex..... It was very good at one time, and it can come back.

Answer 6

This just proves that tit for tat isn't always the best thing. Tell your husband and quit the sex with not your husband. Hopefully you'll be able to move past it. Good Luck.

Answer 7

WOW!! so two wrong make a right? what happens when one of you get STD continue to do it and spread it around to other innocent person to get even with your husband, re-think before your actions

Answer 8

stop have sex with the other man. 2 wrongs don't make it right.

Answer 9

Divorce. You'll be jelous all your life with him and no one should go through that torture no matter how cruel one can be.

Answer 10

Divorce your cheating husband and marry your **** buddy.