Question for christians ?

Question

im christian, and i met this girl... very sheltered homeschooled and a church girl. she is 16.

we went to the mall and i told her i liked the tv show " the girls next door "

she went home and told her mom... her mom e mailed my mom and said im not allowed to see the girl again, and went on about morals.

" what would jesus do ? "

comes to mind, i dont think he would stop a friend from seeing a friend

Answer 1

I'm surprised she even got to go to the mall.

Answer 2

All to sad, and all to true. I agree with you that the other mom was less than fair. If her daughter decides that what her mother says is true, then let that be her decision. Yet to not be your friend is far to narrow minded, and not something Jesus would do. After all, Jesus dealt with the Samaritans. How more objectionable could one possibly be. If we understand the context of their society, and just how the Samaritans were viewed, then one can see the shock in the voice of the passage in the Bible where Jesus spoke to the woman at the well. First of all, He !!!spoke!!! to a woman, of all people, when they were alone, at the well. That was bad enough. But a Samaritan woman as well, that was just completely unheard of and very shameful. A true Jew just did not do that. Who did Jesus think He was to do such a thing. Yet He did, and thought nothing of it because of His love for all of mankind. I am sure that in His mind, His people were the ones objectionable, but loved them anyway. The Parable about the Good Samaritan is part of what all of this is about. Your "friends" mother needs to learn to practice what she preaches. She is also very much in danger of her daughter very much seeking out what is forbidden simply because what is forbidden becomes all the more appealing. Much better would be for the girl to be your friend and to learn what others experience and why. It could be a teaching moment for mom, or a relenting of restrictions that even Jesus would freely allow. As a Christian, I feel sorry for the other girl and her mom, that kind of narrow mindedness only leads to other problems that could very well become devastating for both of them. Paul said that all things are lawful, but all things are not expedient. I believe Paul would ask the mom, what's the problem here? Is your testimony so poor that you can't let your daughter know others that you might disagree with, but use such to show your daughter why you feel that these things are not good?

Answer 3

I am not sure what your question is, however I think I get what this is about. There are hundreds of "Christian" faiths, some are more relaxed than others. Believers themselves cannot agree on which Christian faith is the correct faith. The Catholic Church for instance believes that they are the one true Christian Church founded by Christ himself because of a conversation recorded in the bible between Jesus and Peter. This would mean that every other sect of Christian believers is wrong.
With this girls mom, I think that she sees things in a different light than you, only God can really say who is right in this case. There is a lot of perverse things in this world, and TV is really getting bad. Having not seen the show you are talking about I can't say one way or the other. But I go home every night and play Resistance Fall of Man on my PS3 and shoot online players for hours on end, by the same tolken I am sure that I am just as damned to hell as you by your friends mother.
As to what Jesus would do? I think that he wouldn't intervene as your friends mother did.
Our job as Christians is to lift one another up, and try to live our lives as Jesus would. Is there a problem with the show you watch, and do you think that Jesus would approve? If the show is okay than your friend's mom is out of line. If you find anything bad about the show then what you do at that point is up to you. Either way remember that Jesus is watching what we do, and regardless of how we justify what we do,wrong is wrong, a lie is a lie, and a sin is a sin.

Answer 4

If the show is sexual garbage Jesus would chuck the TV out the window. I dont know what kind of a show " the girls next door" is . But if is anything like most of the garbage Hollywood puts on TV then her mother is right. If the show has sexually provacative scenes which it apparently does then you as a Christian should not be watching it either. God does not want us to be entertained by things that he hates. Do you think Jesus would enjoy a show that glorifies sin? No he would not , he would chuck the TV out the window just like he chased the money changers out of God's temple with a cat of nine tails.

Answer 5

her mom is right ..if she cant control what her child is watching when she may be visiting YOUR house she has a right as a responsible parent to monitor her child's TV programs and do her best to keep her from the "girl next door" influences by separating her from another child that does would be the consequence of that

16 does not equal grown up in most cases

on the other side she may have still wanted to hang out but mom was like NO WAY
maybe her mom should have let you hang out at her house and if shes a good christian mom expose you to that so maybe when you go home you might not care to watch programs like that after being around another group that doesn't watch that type of TV..and probably for good reasons

Answer 6

On Questions of Morals? A Friend seeing a friend is no question, BUT bad manners corrupt character. A parent who desires good and great things for her precious girl is a parent sowing good values, adding greatly moralled citizen for your country, which NOW very rare even in churches !!! No offense pls! " The Truth shall make you Free..." If you're in America, this is what America needed, from the President down to the lowest ranking member of a city Council!!!

Answer 7

I went to a church that did not recommend watching TV and going to the movies because of the sex, violence, foul language, making drugs of all types acceptable, etc. So I stopped watching TV.

I have more time for everything else. Like answering questions here and reading others answers and learning from them.

What did Jesus do - He did His Fathers way - He taught the sinners and healed the sick. He did not copy their ways to be acceptable to the world.

Answer 8

ok, i don't know what the girl next door is but as a mother she has the right to protect her daughter from what she thinks is good and bad for her.

her mom might be a bit too religious.

p.s. is that show on the "N" channel (noggin or something like that)? if so, I've seen some of those shows and i would not allow my kids to watch it. but that would be my decision as a parent.

Answer 9

It sounds you like you met one of the previous families from our church.
This family wouldnt allow thier kids to look at boys unless he was in their family. They homeschooled , and werent allowed to mix with other kids. They only ate vegetable raw or fruits and nuts. The kids werent allowed to go to the malls. They were lucky to be able to go to church. So when the mother confronted me about my daughter wearing bracelets, or my son's styles, of long hair or mohawk styles I just told her that my kids have the right to express themselves and to be happy, to learn of the world, without having to worry about opening their mouths wrong, or a hair out of place, or even walking wrong. I told her my kids would dress the way they wanted to, with in the standards of being decent and not revealing anything they shouldnt.
My kids grew up to be respected and kind and loving , very expressive and happy. Where her kids have rebelled, had outburst of goth, and punk or down right provocative clothing.
They've had sex and left home already , but arent old enough to be out on their own. ( All except 2 of them ) Hopefully she'll have the knowledge that she srewed up the others and correct things before it's too late for the other 2 still at home.

So no your friend should be allowed to have friends. If the mother doesnt want to have her daughter know about certain things then she should sit down with you and tell you what her daughter can and cant be around . If she takes her freedom and chance at having friends, that God places in their lives then your friend may rebell like the ones I know did.
Pray about this and talk to your mom. God needs to work on your friend's family to show them His people are in this world for each other , not to be on their own.

Chrisitans come in many forms and religions but one thing we share is our love anf belief in God and Jesus. That often gets trampled by the rules and pride or controls we have about or on others.

Your friend needs you, but it may be in other ways right now. So Talk to God before you act out or take this on alone.
As the show sounds like it wouldnt be good for anyone at any age to watch. So maybe you should think about if it is changing anything in you about how you view the things it talks about. Maybe find an ew show to replace that one. One with a positive message.
I can assume this girl doesnt have a pc in her home either. As things can be seen for good or evil here, just as tv or shows can be as well.
Things the The Lion The Witch and the wardrobe can be seen as the 3 heads of God , Jesus and Holy Spirit.
fighting good and evil or other ways.
Sometimes it's also what we read in things . As some people even see just the negative things in the bible but dont see the good .
but really change your shows you watch , for your own peace of mind first.

Answer 10

I think the two of you are both in the wrong. first you for watching the girls next door and your friends folks for stoping you from seeing your friend. First I would recomend laying low and seeing if you can find a mutual friend to do some back channel discussions.

Answer 11

I agree with you, as a fellow believer your friends mom should have spoken to your mom and nicely voiced her concern. Parents have a very tough job and I am sure your friends mom meant no harm to your feelings. There will be alot of disagreement on this topic. But I can see both sides. You didn't mean any harm and were just having casual conversation. Her mom was attempting to protect her child that God gave her. As unfair as it seems you must obey her wishes. All you can do is pray that the Lord will change her heart.
Remember: we will all be together once Christ returns. =)