Should I be worried when my bf freely gives his number out to other women?

Question

I don't want to overreact, but whenever my boyfriend meets new female "friends", he gives them his number, and these girls call him constantly. I have no problem with him having female friends, but I feel that by doing this, he is making himself seem too available to them. Am I overreacting, or do I have a reason to worry?

(He is 21 and I am 20)

I mean, he's had plenty of female friends before he met me, and that's perfectly fine. I just don't see why he has to give his number out to new girls after we've been together for almost 2 years...

Answer 1

He's planting seeds for future investment, some of them will turn out to be sex partners.
What other reason do you think it is......unless he's dealing drugs I suppose.

Answer 2

You're not overreacting. It's fine for him to have female friends but when my male friends get girlfriends, I always talk to them [the girlfriends] first to put them at ease with the relationship and I always call their land lines not his cell phone so that it's all out in the open and I speak with the girls first (just quick chit chat and a general low down on why I'm calling) so that they know nothing is going on. These are guys with whom I've been friends for years so I would think that these women would at least say hello to you if they just met him.

This is just blatantly disrespectful to you and your relationship. You should let your bf know that, while you don't mind him having female friends, you uncomfortable with random women calling him whenever the mood strikes them. I think that's more than reasonable.

Answer 3

Well, it's not a big deal if they're just friends.

But if these girls are calling at all hours, and he's picking up the phone for another girl, especially when he's with you, I'd be mad.

And if it bugs you, ask him how he'd feel about you giving your number out to lots of guys.

Answer 4

The rules may be somewhat different for your day than mine, but I think that would make me uncomfortable because I, like you, interpret that as him making himself appear available. Have you two discussed this in any detail?
Now, let's all go holla at Flash's girlfriend!

Answer 5

You are both young. I see it as a way for him to tell you he is not exclusive. He does not want to move to the next level. If you still want to be casual with him, leave it like that and have your tons of boy-friends who you can chat and go out too. Do not expect him to settle with you. If you are looking for something serious, he is not material.

Answer 6

You probably need to worry. Cuz I'll find it disrespectful if my girl gave her number to every guy she met. It's almost like cheating.

Answer 7

hello

in my experience what i would say is yes. for these reasons, there is something not quite complete with your relationship. i have been through this before . he probably subconcounsly isnt aware of what he is doing. coming to you. you might know it is not completely right so you can fix it or move on. and that to be honest is the key to relationships. is it fixible or not.

good luck

x

Answer 8

I just do that type of thing for fun, then again I'm single.

I suppose it is a little messed up, I would at least chat with him about i and tell him that it does make you uncomfortable.

Answer 9

I wouldn't worry too much about it. I mean, I see my girlfriend giving her number to a number of other guys, but it means they're just friends wanting to connect.

Answer 10

make sure u let him know how u feel. let him know dat u dont appreciate him doin that and u feel like dat is disrespectful. if he maintains that its not serious start gettin guys number!! i dont think thats rite since ya'll have been together for so long. ur in a serious relationship!!