I just want sex nothing more nothing less....Abnormal?

Question

Okay I am looking for serious answers and i frankly do not care about religious abstinence!

I am a female and i masturbated since i was 4 years old....yes i sadly fit Freud's theory and to say the least i am kind of a nympho. Because of health reasons particularly the fear of getting pregnant, i decided to simply masturbate to soothe my libido, but for some time now it gotten to the point were I NEED more! I am currently 16 and a virgin, and i feel i just need sex for the physical gratification. Literally a hunger that needs to be fed. I do not care or really want the emotional relationship i just want sex. And before answering, it is not hormones, hormones do not last this long and i went through the hormonal growth phase fairly early and it has gone and past. So finally my question...

If I just went out and basically lost my virginity to a stranger would there be emotional repercussions in the distant future?

Answer 1

There would likely be repercussions in the immediate short term future as well. That's not the way you want to go. Despite the fact that you are obviously intelligent and articulate, all the psycho-babble is basically rationalizing the fact that you're on hormone overload, a normal state of being for your age. But just because it is normal for your age doesn't mean that anyone you'd encounter would benevolently have your best interests at heart...in fact, it's more likely that unscrupulous sorts would exploit you to their advantage (and your detriment). So continue with your self-therapy for now. Things change radically and rapidly at your stage of development...your day is coming. But protecting yourself in the meantime will help ensure that it is a safe, good day for you. Good luck.

Answer 2

LOL LOL LOL
hormones last forever.
you are just more hormonally charged than most of us.

i don't think you would have emotional repercussions as long as you don't get to know the person at all and sever contact after sex.

the rules of this game are simple, plAy it right and you won't get hurt:

1. don't choose a complete stranger but don't pick someone you know.
2. only do it ONCE per person because if you keep doing it you will develop a relationship and that probably isn't what the other person wants if they have sex right away.
3. do not talk to them afterwards.
4. be clear about your motives and let them know you want them to be clear about theirs.



you know what you want so go for it!
guys do so i think you should too!

PS to that girl who said "how do you know what sex is at 4?", you don't have to know what sex is to know that you have feelings down there and want something.
i think i was like you at 16.

just be really careful not to get STDs or get preg. use protection ALWAYS but be free with yourself without caring what others think.

Answer 3

I personally wish I could look back on my first time with a man I cared about, but unfortunately, that's not how it happened. I can't say whether you will regret it or not, but I respect your maturity in considering the possible consequences of your actions. Also, remember that any random guy could have a disease and, no, condoms are NOT fullproof, especially with herpes. You also don't know what danger your could be in going home with a stranger. You could be assaulted or even killed.
You may have an elevated testosterone level causing your high sex drive. Many girls tend to have higher sex drives when they were molested as kids. I don't know if this is the case with you though.

Answer 4

If you want to talk with someone who somewhat understands what you're dealing with just talk to me sometime. I'm not perfect, but I try to find out a happy medium to my personal issues. Obviously finding a random stranger, or even a good guy friend isn't the way to go. A boyfriend wouldn't be any better, all you'd care about is the end result. You need to rework your thinking and inverse it, until you get yourself into a better frame of mind. Besides, patience is the key to achieving anything great, not being an idiot and rushing into something. Feel free to e-mail me sometime. Heck, even if it's just to yell at me or something I don't care.

Answer 5

With sex there are always emotional repercussions, be careful you dont get into a habit of only ever having one night stands like some men with high sex drives develop.

Answer 6

You never know until its done. You may say you dont want any emotional attatchment, but when you're a virgin and having sex for the first time, and you're personally sharing this intimite time with a person, you could feel emotionally involved and feel like a slut after. Just think about it first. if its what you want to try out, be prepared for the outcomes, both good and bad.

Answer 7

Well there is always chance for regret in anything you do. I certainly think it would be better to look for a good guy to have a relationship with and have sex with. But if you are hell bent on going after one night stands all I can say is be safe.

Answer 8

If you get pregnant or an STD, there will *definitely* be emotional repercussions. And I would think it through first, or people might think of you as a "slut" if you do it a lot, and you yourself may regret later not waiting a bit!!!

Answer 9

probably you do.'cause for some people the virginity is like the treasure you not just give to anybody.anyway,about you sex apetite.i think you have vaginal fire.is sonthing make you feel tha you need more and more.another thing.just please protect you self.and enjoy the marvelous placer of sex.

Answer 10

i can understand where your comin from. but dont just have sex wit mysterious men!!! u'll end up being labeled wit a bad name. why dont u look for a guy who wants the same thing u want and just go for it!!! make sure ur safe!!

hope this helps