My daughter is 3 in March and I need a name to call her bits. At the moment I just call it a 'wee wee' but I would prefer another name. My mother in law says that you should call it a vagina from the start but I think I would prefer a child-friendly name for the time being, but am stuck on what to use. Any suggestions would be great - the more, the better so I can decide which is best for us. I have been putting it off a bit, but she is inquisitive and I need to be able to call it something. I don't want to confuse or embarrass her. ***If any perverts, paedos or similar people reply, please be warned that I will report you at once as children's sexual matters are no joke***
2007-11-12 10:05:25 · 53 answers · asked by smudge 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
hi there i used to call my daughters bits her flower when she was the same age as your little girl , god jessica is now almost 14 its gone so quickly , i want my baby back ,lol she has turned into a monster!!!! ps cherish your baby xx
2007-11-13 06:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I seriously don't think that half you people understand what being a kid is like. In my family it's called the front bottom. It makes everything so uncomplicated. The child only has to remember one word, 'bottom', and then whether it's at the front or the back. I'm 13 and I still feel uncomfortable calling it a vagina and I think that when the kid gets to school, if they ever happened to refer to it as a vagina, they would be very embarassed. It has nothing to do with whether that's what it's actually called. Choose a name for it that you and your child would feel comfortable saying.
2007-11-12 21:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your mother in law is right, you should just call it the medical term vagina, which isn't being rude or nasty.Most nurses and doctors call the female part a vagina the male part a penis.She should know the names of her body part. In some cases a child might think it is okay to be touched in their private parts ,but that is no. Tell her that all females and girls like you and me have a vagina. I think she is at age to know what it is, and that no one should touch her down there. - mother of a baby boy
2007-11-12 15:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by mizzpretti 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two daughters, (22yrs and 6 yrs) we have always called their private parts by the correct name. there is nothing to be embarrassed about and it is very helpful to call these parts by their actual name. a vagina is a vagina, a penis is a penis.
I once heard that in a child abuse case, the judge threw out the case because "chichi" was not the correct word for the child's part and it couldn't be proven the perv. touched the child's vagina because the child would only call it a "chichi". sick.
2007-11-12 10:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I do believe that children should know the proper name for thier parts. I agree with a previous poster, there is something to be said about keeping children innocent. My son knows his penis is a penis. But we also call it his doodle. There is no harm to them to have a cutesy name. Tell her the truth that its a vagina and let her know its o.k to call it her wee-wee.
2007-11-12 11:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by Alexanders and Katherines mama 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I used the proper terms for my kids. I just don't feel right about teaching kids "baby words" and them having to relearn it all when they get older. Keep in mind, on a female, the interior is the vagina and the exterior part is the vulva. That gives you a choice but is still pretty accurate.
2007-11-12 12:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to be teaching her the proper names - she has a vulva, a vagina, you can use the word pudenda if you like that better - women have breasts, boys have penises and testicles.
In general, private parts is okay, but don't go with other odd cutesy names.
2007-11-13 00:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I read (I think in Parents magazine) that calling their privates by the technical names is too confusing for small children, so my son calls it his wee wee, too, until he is old enough (6-7) to understand more about the clinical information. You can still call it a wee wee and explain how it works, if she understands.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-11-12 14:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
It could depend on what you call your own, I have Friends who still use the term 'foo foo'. I remember learning at an early age that certain parts of the body have a proper name, and a slang name. The proper name was used at the doctors and the slang one at home.
2007-11-13 00:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lois 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
she has a vagina so respect given where due, you can also call it lilly, its an english term to use lilly and winkle. thats it, you cant camoflauge what she has to make the situation more comfortable.
stay away from front bum, flower power, its starts to dress it up when infact it should not be.
It does not help the situation and she may start to use the cute words she likes in public not understanding to keep those words to herself.
2007-11-12 10:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by dot 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋