she can't join the Army because she is a single mother but yet a man who has kids and isnt married CAN join the Army? What is the difference? I KNOW a guy in the army that has a son and isnt married to the mom--he isnt even WITH the mother of his son anymore and hasnt been since she was pregnant.
2007-11-12 09:56:04 · 12 answers · asked by Tbrat 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The reason has to deal with custody. If she has custody of her child(ren), she cannot join, and the same holds true for men. Most of the time when a child is born out of wedlock, the mother retains custody, so the man is still eligible to join. The rule states that if you have custody, and are single, you cannot join whether you are a man or woman. If you are a single parent, you have to have given up legal custody of your child(ren) for a period of at least one year. The one year requirement is to ensure someone is not giving up their child for the purpose of enlisting. Also, you technically are not supposed to get custody back after you join either.
2007-11-12 10:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I concur with the recruiter above and add the following:
The army has a lot of single parents who became pregnant and mothers AFTER coming into the Army. The Army cannot kick them out for being single mothers unless they fail to come up with both a long-term and short-term care plan for who will provide care for the child during deployments, field exercises, etc. A lot of single-parents are separated earlier than their obligation for failure to create this care plan.
The Army does not want someone coming into the Army as a single-parent because they are not likely to be able to adapt to the military and the Army will have put a lot of energy, resources and money into training someone they have to let go. A lot of single parents manipulate the system to get out of the Army instead of deploying or because they don't want to be in the Army anymore...it's not true for all of them, but the perception is that is what most if not all of them are doing.
A person who is the non-custodial parent of the child can come in because they are not actively raising the child so it will not interfere with military duty.
Don't try to hand off a child to another person temporarily. while you complete basic training, thinking you can bring your child to your first duty station. This is actually fraudulent and will result in your separation for a fraudulent enlistment. Recruiters doing this are subject to investigation and criminal/administrative action.
2007-11-12 10:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by ironjag 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A person that has single custody of a child may not join the service. She could join if she gave custody to the father. The guy you know does not have custody of his son either.
The Army (and other services) can not allow the job as a parent to interfere with the job as a military member.
2007-11-12 10:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
In each case, which is a sole provider for those children? Do both, or either of the individuals have a caretaker that can and will tae the children in the event of a deployment or having to be away for training?
These questions make a big difference.
2007-11-12 10:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by RTO Trainer 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what number hundreds of girls have fallen for that line that the married guy they're drowsing with is getting divorced. Its a lie... organic and easy. No divorce, his spouse isn't drowsing on the sofa, he only needs in her pants. And curiously it worked. She desires to stroll remote from this guy and defend what little self-worth and self appreciate that she has left.
2016-09-29 02:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about that... there are a LOT of single mothers in the Army. You might want to get in writing what the reason is, and consider talking to other recruiters.
2007-11-12 10:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by ಠ__ಠ 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Here is some information the VA rep gave me,this may help you.
http://usmilitary.about.com/cs/genfamily/a/familycare.htm
http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningthemilitary/a/enlstandards_3.htm
2007-11-12 11:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by redheadusmcwife2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he thought he might be doing her a favor. My youngest sister is a single parent in service, it's not easy.
2007-11-12 10:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by 2nd AD/ 4th ID 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That isn't right. Maybe he was actually trying to help her out... shocking and unlikely, but possible. Single parents have a very hard time in the military.
2007-11-12 10:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ben 3 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I think it depends on who has custody of the children.
I'm not sure though.
2007-11-12 10:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by hockeylord343 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋