Well, I'm just gonna say it. This past weekend, i went to a party and unfortunately got extremely intoxicated. I found out the next morning that i ended up hooking up and going all the way with my ex-boyfriend. I bearly remember ANY of it and a lot of people are telling me that he completely took advantage and that i was nearly passed out...
I haven't talked to him since the "incident" and i'm so scared as to what happened...he probably didn't use protection and i don't know where he's been since we dated...
i'm so lost...what should i do? there is no way i can tell my parents...they still think i haven't gotten my first kiss and i'm 17. yeah, telling my parents is not possible...ughh
2007-11-12 08:42:51 · 10 answers · asked by cookie 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
First off, your BF is a creep to take advantage when you were drunk. Second, go to your local health department for the "morning after" pill. They can give you advice about other subjects too, like, STDs and what to do about your BF. It is embarrassing, but try to talk to your parents. You'll be surprised how understanding most can be. They were your age once.
2007-11-12 08:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Flowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some deep breaths and try to chill yourself out. Do you have someone else that you trust that you could tell? Because technically, that is rape. And you are gonna need someone who can help you with the aftermath. What you are going to need to do is wait things out on the pregnancy and STD front. The test for pregnancy can be taken accurately around 14 days...although some women need up to a month. As far as the other, get tested in a month or two for everything...and then make an appointment 6 or 7 months out so that you can be sure you are clear. I don't know what to tell you about the incident, because it was NOT your fault. Yes, you should not have been drinking, as you are obviously underage, but that does not give ANYONE the right to violate you. I would seek some counseling, if you think that is necessary. And really, please find someone older (an aunt, a friend's parents, a cousin) who can help you with the other stuff if you are not going to tell your parents. This is 'kind of' a big deal.
2007-11-12 08:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jules, E, and Liam :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets look at this in a calm manner, I would go and get a morning after pill if you can get them where you live and then go and get a STD test including an HIV screening. I'm sorry this happened but take it as a lesson learned, never get drunk ever!!! and what kind of friends do you have that sat and watched while you were taken advantage of? Remember you are the only person responsible for your actions as well as the consequences of those actions. Good Luck my dear and stay healthy. If it gets any worse do tell your parents.
2007-11-12 08:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Nate R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this wasn't a mistake. this replaced right into a determination you made on your very own motives. Calling it some thing else doesn' t exchange it. you're untrue. Now you're making excuses so which you do no longer ought to deal the end result out of your determination. on the grounds that he hasn't had the forged experience to drop you, you need to comprehend that your determination is a robust indicator that significant exchange has exceeded off on your relationship. How long it truly is been contemporary technique this variation is a query. does not actual rely. The exchange is actual and you're able to desire to stand it.
2016-10-02 05:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by saulsbery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go to the guy and ask him what happened? He might think that you were ok with how things were going because you were drunk. Get his side of the story and then go from there. I don't think you are going to have date rape case because you never claimed that you said "no" to him...you can't remember. So you don't know if you did, or if you didn't. You will probably need to get a preg test too.
2007-11-12 08:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by lahockeyg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is less then 72 hours, then you better go get yourself Plan B at the local pharmacy.
That way you can be sure you are not pregnant.
Then you can begin to deal with the rest of the issues with that most important detail out of the way.
2007-11-12 08:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Barry C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand your problem, if u can't tell your parents about it then don't. They will be happy and pround of u. When u meet the boyfriend of your future or when u r 20 y.o. Thenu can tell them, but i don't think they will even ask u about it as this is your personal matter.
2007-11-12 08:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lost In Space 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow that's serious. you have to talk to him. or at least a doctor so you can make sure you didn't contract anything. doctor first is probably the best idea, and go with your best friend for support.
2007-11-12 08:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a couple of weeks and go get tested, this should be a good reason to stop drinking
2007-11-12 08:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were intoxicated and said no (or too drunk to say no) then it's rape.
2007-11-12 08:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋