My husband works at telenetworks where people call him and he helps them fix their computers.
In between calls they can chat with people on instant messenger.
He seen some girl that he recognized back in the day when he used to 'sell',.Jumping from house to house when there were parties. He i.m.ed her. Of course he told me about it.
Told me that she looked familiar and that he was asking her where he knew her from. I asked him why he did that, and he said because it bothers him when he knows he remembers someone but he can't figure out from where.
Back then he was always on drugs and he didn't remember people very well. But anyways he keot bugging her, until after a while she stopped messaging him.
Ladies would this make you mad if your husband came home and told you that. Although I know he wasn't trying to hit on her, he's just weird like that. he likes to bug people.
2007-11-12 08:28:34 · 39 answers · asked by Aneres 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, Be SOO glad he even TOLD YOU!!!!!!
It KILLS me to see a familiar face and not remember--and I will make a total turd of myself by asking--"HOW do I know you?"
At least she quit IMing him!
She tried--now YOU try------
---Please try to get it off your mind--as hard as that may be..
Satan tries to ruin marriages--don't let him make you think that thought over and over again---because he will!
By the way, Hurrah for the girl quitting her IMing.
2007-11-12 08:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he's harmless and I wouldn't have been offended. Because he told you he obviously wasn't considering it cheating! I bet he's bored on the computer between calls. If he found someone to chat with on IM that he knew in real life, I bet that made it more tempting to check out. Also, if he had drug problems and potentially has lost memories because of it, he may be trying to reconnect with a part of his life that he's lost. Kudos to him for beating the drug habit.
On the other hand, he might have been trying to reconnect with someone who could get him drugs. Drug rehabilitation is very hard and the desire to go back is still there years later. I would question him about that, just to make sure, but drop the jealousy angle.
2007-11-12 08:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by musethefirst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it bother you. I am the same way with when I put something somewhere and can't remember where I left it. I may not need the thing I misplaced but it will bug me until I find it. Just keep him happy at home and he won't want to stray if he does talk to someone he used to know as a romantic interest.
2007-11-12 08:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way I guess it would bother me but from the sounds of it, it sounds like you trust him and he's very honest with you. Now, if he would have come home and never said anything about it then I would be really furious if I found out. Anyway, sounds like you have a loving, honest man don't let that bother you.
2007-11-12 08:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like anything is going on. I feel the same way as he does...sometimes when I run into someone who says hi to me, and I can't remember who they are, I practically obsess about it until I remember how they knew me. It doesn't matter if it is a male or female...I just need to know. Plus, he told you about it so he probably isn't interested in anything with this girl.
2007-11-12 08:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, he saw someone he knows and asked her how he knows her?
I'm sorry, you're upset why?
Are you upset because he did it behind your back? Ooh wait, he told you immediately!
It seems like you are probably an excitable person if he told you right away. Personally, I wouldn't even think of telling my girlfriend something so pointless.
Seriously, I think you need to lighten up and show him you don't get mad over everything!
2007-11-12 08:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're making too much out of it.
It's harmless and she stopped talking to him.
I can understand how it would bug him if he recognized a face and wanted to put a name to that face. It's no big deal. People do it all the time.
2007-11-12 08:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by sugar sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people hate it when they recognize someone or something and then cant figure out when or where they knew them from. This would not make me mad because I trust my fiance, but you could have trust/jealousy problems if this bothers you...
2007-11-12 08:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he told you about it, he is obviously not trying to hide it from you, so why get mad? He is still coming home to you and telling you about his day...he could have easily kept that info from you and that would have made him look suspicous! Men are just dumb like that sometimes and they don't think about it hurting your feelings or upseting you, but I am sure he meant nothing by it.
2007-11-12 08:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by ataman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should not contact any other women, regardless of what the reason is. With my fiance and I, we make it very clear, if he wouldn't want me to do it, then he shouldn't do it either. That's a really good way to measure if you are doing something okay or something that you shouldn't be. Just a suggestion.
2007-11-12 08:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was honest with you. Isn't that the important thing?? Sometimes curiousity gets the best of us. It was bothering him that he couldn't remember. He was just satisfying that need.
I don't think they're anything wrong here. When he's hiding a conversation like that from you........then you should be concerned.
2007-11-12 08:34:58 · answer #11 · answered by jtbrick1208 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋