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Am I just being paranoid because of past abuse?
He called yesterday and said he was planning on marrying me.What should I do about this man?
Is it possible that I caused him to behave this way?He said hes never acted this way in the past?
I met a man online in June 20 of this year. Everything was very pleasant in the begining.Then these things happened:
1:He made fun of a past relationship of mine that was abusive. He said "All Robert had to do was slap you around to get you to marry him!"
2:He got angry because I wanted to go home and punched his wall.He yelled at me and said"Look at what you made me do!"
3:After two months he wanted me to move away from my aunts house and move to the city he's in. We only live 30 min apart.He said that he would rent a car and help me move my things.He started looking at apartments in his city for me.
3:We were arguing and he told me that I was acting like a" f***ing c**t."
4:He came over and when he seen my aunts home he said" Gosh!How cold you live here?This place is depressing!" "Gosh! Look at your room! How depressing."
5:Another time I wanted to go home.He yelled at me all the way to the bus stop.Once we got there he started shoving my shoulder saying DONT LEAVE!!
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He said that he has never behaved that way before.Then said he would get frustated when I would drink.I told him that he acted that way even when I wasnt drinking.
2007-11-12 08:24:56 · 8 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Under no uncertain terms should you get back with this guy... He is no different to the past guy you were seeing, I think you know in your heart what is right for you.. Think of the children you could have with this man, would you like him to treat your babies like that too? because that is where you are heading with him. I do not believe a leopard can change its spots.. he is going to offer you the world at you feet and tell you he will change, shower you with compliments, buy you gifts, offer you everything he knows you want... and it will only be a matter of time before he resorts back to the physical abuse and mental. Hun, Its all about control and this is your life not his dont let him take that away from you because he will. Take the power back and find yourself a lovely man who will treat you like you deserve to be treated because they are out there...but please learn to love and respect yourself before you get into a new relationship therefore, you will attract the great loving man from what you give out.
2007-11-12 08:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn around and run as fast as you can away from this person. He has problems that HE has to deal with. If you choose to stay with him, believe me it will only get worse. Until he decides to get help, things are not going to improve.
Once, I feel sorry for the other party. After that, then it's your choice and you have to deal with the consequences of your decision. Please do yourself a favor and stay away from him. Don't be another statistic. You might have issues that you need to deal with as well. This is not a healthy relationship and any rational person would tell you the same. Good luck.
2007-11-12 08:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jane_S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was just in a relationship like that for 4 years but i got out.After all this time i figured out that instead of feeling sorry for him because he dint know how to act like an adult get mad at him. Think about what he is doIng you. If I walked up to you in the street for no reason and called you a f***ing c**t what would you do? Would you really allow me to do that? You dont let anybody con troll you like that. You disrespect your self by doing that. toughen up!!!
2007-11-12 08:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Momma D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fairly have this written connect up my bathing room wall different than for the final line, the place it says stop. Mine has been altered to declare "do no longer tell me because of the fact i do no longer supply a Sh!T! i like my version of this poem better :)
2016-11-11 06:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the number abot the man on the internet?? If so (I would not date him again it sounds like you really do not want to date him and you are afraid. It sounds like his is disregarding what you want. Are you willing to get rid of everthing just to make him happy. He sounds to controlling. He can say stuff but actions speak louder than words and his action to me does not speak louder than words.)
Sometimes we overlook what is right in front of us.
2007-11-12 08:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an idiot or just so despert that you would take his abuse and listen to his lies just to have a man around?
Get him out of your life and do not be afraid to put a PFA out on him.
2007-11-12 08:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! That sounds like an abusive realtionship. Get out and stay out.
2007-11-12 08:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by michellemcshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no dont get bac with him cause no guy should hit a girl, if a guy hits a girl it shows that he is a pus*y. so no dont do it
2007-11-12 08:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by baseballboy6720 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋