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Our babys due soon. We both work and my wife earns more than me so we decided that I would be house husband after her maternity leave. My male mates think I'm lucky but all female mates say somthing negative.
I just joke and say "it will be easy" just to annoy anyone who's negative.
Any thoughts?

2007-11-12 08:19:27 · 18 answers · asked by always right 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting Other - Pregnancy & Parenting

18 answers

Ignore any negative comments, my hubby would love to be a house husband to have the close bond i have with our baby girl.
You do whats best for your situation, it is harder to be the stay at home parent, after a few months you feel like climbing the walls, not all the time but mostly on bad days. But i have to say i feel so proud of what i've contributed towards our little girl & am lucky that i can take her anywhere at anytime & share special hugs, teach her new things to show her daddy when he gets home. So its hard yes but worth it too. I actually think a man would be really good at being the main carer, good on you!
Beths answer is a bit sexist lol If you've been at work all day you've had a break so i'd get as much cleaning done as i could & expect a helping hand when you get home from work.

2007-11-12 09:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Since my husband and I moved to South Korea he has been the house husband and he loves it. He cleans the house, cooks and generally takes care of stuff on the home front. He enjoys it because he gets to work for a few hours and then spend the rest of the time reading, playing video games or walking the dog.

Our first child is due in March and he's ecstatic about being a stay at home dad! You friends who make negative comments are either threatened or jealous. There is nothing wrong with the man staying home. If your wife makes enough money that you can stay home it's great, it's wonderful that your child will have a stay at home parent, it doesn't matter which parent it is.... your marriage is a partnership, everyone does what they can do best!

Congratulations!

2007-11-12 21:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel B 5 · 0 0

I stayed home with my son for the first 7 months, my husband stayed home for the next 7 months. Even though he's not chauvinistic, he still had a few outdated ideas about the way things are. When I was home, he got a little irked if I asked for help with dinner and/or chores. He expected time to relax while I fed/bathed/changed the baby. If I wanted a little time to write emails, he got annoyed, saying "you had ALL day for this".

When the tables were turned and HE stayed home, it was a real eye-opener. Days one and two, I came home to a clean house and dinner on the table. Day three no dinner. Day four, dad and son weren't bathed or dressed. Day five, he called his mom weeping.

Humor aside, it was a terrific experience I think every dad should have. Your male mates who think you're "lucky" are right - but not because it's easy. Have them come by and help for a day and see what they think then.

2007-11-12 16:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 1 0

I'd love to do that, Although you will have to get up early and tend to the baby through the night. Wash, Iron, cook and so on. It will be hard work. But rewarding.
There's Nil wrong with being a House hubby, Just don't get addicted to daytime TV.....
You might find you will take on some part time to get a break.

2007-11-12 16:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by cavetroy 3 · 0 0

It isn't easy at all being a stay at home parent. I have been a sahm for going on 3 years now and by no means is it easier than going to work everyday. My husband says that I am lucky for being able to stay in the house when it is cold and raining or hot and humid (he works outside), but he couldn't live one day in my shoes. More power to you on being the one to take on this job. I heard is worth over $100,000.00 a year.

2007-11-12 16:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 0 0

More power to you. I don't think there are alot men out there willing to do this. It is harder than you think. But a work of advice.........don't just take care of baby. Being a SAHD (stay at home dad) has lots of other things, like keeping the house in order, cooking, laundry. If my husband stayed home and I worked that is what I would expect of him. If I worked all day I wouldn't want to worry about all those things.
Best of Luck to you both.

2007-11-12 16:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 5 · 0 1

Many of the parents at my childrens school share the role and many will agree that the stay at home parent does not have an easy time.

It may be that your female friends feel threatened by the role reversal, or just jealous.

2007-11-12 16:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Dee L 5 · 0 0

I think it is great that more fathers are willing to play the stay at home role.....my husband did it for about three months and he was really great at it our kids had alot of fun too! It is work though but at the end of the day it is very rewarding. Good luck and have fun!

2007-11-12 16:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by imamom 4 · 0 0

I think it sounds like it is the best decision for you and your wife and as long as you are both happy with the arrangement, then who cares what other people think.
Maybe your female frinds are worried that you will find out just how easy it is and let their husbands know!

2007-11-13 04:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Catwhiskers 5 · 0 0

All you have to do is, cook , clean the house and take after the baby, you should be fine. Its work, its easy when the baby is a new born, they just sleep eat, and poo in the diaper. It's enough time for you to get the hang of stuff.

2007-11-12 16:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by krennao 7 · 0 1

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