Him and i have 4th hour together and today he was just as happy as always in that class, but by the time he got on the bus he wouldn’t say anything to me and when i asked what was wrong he just said he didn’t want to talk about it or nothing or just forget it. at first i thought he might be mad at someone so i forgot about it, but latter in the bus ride i noticed a tear or two come down his cheek. Remembering that he didn’t want to talk about it i just held his hand and didn’t ask.
im not sure if he will tell me what’s wrong and i am really worried about him. i know that this happened sometime between 4th and the bus ride home(2 hours) but i don’t know what it is or anything.
BTW: the whole school is sad bc a senior died in a car crash yesterday, but he didn’t know him...
What should i do????....
2007-11-12 08:18:35 · 17 answers · asked by schs_gurrl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing. Better to leave it alone. He will confide it to you later if he wants to. He has figuritively "gone into his cave". He needs time to think it out. Let him be and he will have the opportunity to explore his own feelings and to grow. He knows it is something that he must deal with by himself. Don't make a baby out of him, O.K.
2007-11-12 08:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by Gottaloveher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support him and be there for him. He probably needs a little time to think over whatever it is on his own and when he feels right about it, he will be more open to talk to you. And whatever he says - don't make him feel bad about it because it is something he will need to trust in you to share with you. And if he opens up to you for this and you hurt him, he may never do it again. This is all part of learning to communicate - which is a great skill to have in life and relationships. So just be there and be supportive when the time is right and you will be able to talk about it and use this as a way to grow closer together.
Good luck, and sorry about your classmate.
2007-11-12 16:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by richbarron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it may be a hard time for you to watch him to be so sad.
You never know why. He may be sad because one of his friends got angry at him, or maybe a family member passed away, He might have gotten into a fight with his parents or someone, or maybe his sibling ran away. The possibilities are endless.
My suggestion is to try to talk to him-you're his girlffriend, and you feel for him. But if he wants you to butt out, do what he says because maybe sometimes it's something personal and even if he's your bf you gotta give hime some space. TRY talking to him, and if he doesn't want you to , spend some alone time with him or even bake him some apple pie to sweeten things up a bit.
2007-11-12 16:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably the car crash, and being on the bus didn't help. Even if he didnt know him, it is still so sad to have someone, anyone, your age or from your school die. I don't know half the people that go to my school's name, but i know them by their face. Just give him a little time. If it doesn't clear up after a week or so, you should ask him again.
2007-11-12 16:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to let him know you are there for him if and when he wants to share with you. If he chooses not to, that's okay too. You need to revert your focus to your studies and to your future. Take it from someone who knows. You have plenty of time to worry about boys...besides you should save your love and energy for marriage. What I say is true, but I know you will do your own thing anyway because young people never listen. Good luck.
2007-11-12 16:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet as 3.141 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him be for a little while. Maybe call him tonight or in the morning and ask him what is wrong. See if he wants you to come over and talk about it. If he still doesn't want to then maybe in a couple of days he will come to you and talk about it. You can't force people to talk (especially guys). When he is ready he will come to you. Just let him know you are ready to listen when he is ready to talk.
2007-11-12 16:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just had a bad day and later on he'll feel like talking about when the upset has passed. You're doing the right thing - don't push, just be there.
2007-11-12 16:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That situation could have triggered something in his past that made him sad. All you can do is be an open ear for him when he feels like talking.
2007-11-12 16:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Monica M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he should talk about it with someone, if it bothers him that much. Some things you just have to get off your chest. This could be one of them, with him tearing up and all.
2007-11-12 16:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you two are alone, you should ask him what's wrong and tell him he yourreally worried about him!!! And let him know if he wants to talk, your there for him
2007-11-12 16:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by i ♥ Sour Patch Kids! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋