His family has (49 uncles/aunts/cousins & their kids). I'm only inviting 10 family members who are in my bridal party. His mom's only willing to pay for her 20 friends. My moms willing to pay the bulk of the wedding/reception.
2007-11-12 08:18:10 · 5 answers · asked by Gin206 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If it were me I would invite them, but I would also put on the invitation RSVP, that away then you will have a good idea of who is coming and who is not. Half the people you invite will probably be no shows anyway.
2007-11-12 08:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd go ahead and invite them all. Congratulations, you are gaining a whole bunch of new relatives!!!!
I remember sitting in a wedding where one whole half of the church was entirely filled with the bride's family and the groom's side had like six relatives --- ALL their mutual friends had to sit on his side for ballast! :-) You should have seen the group pictures --- this one little blond guy in a SEA of dark-haired people. (His bride was Lebanese, as was her whole family.)
This is a celebration of the uniting of two families; now is no time to play "that's mine, this is yours" with who is paying for what. Traditionally, the bride's parents pay for it all, so your MIL-to-be is actually being very generous in offering to help pay for the hospitality of wedding guests. If your folks are happy to pay for the majority of the expenses, then I don't really see what the problem is, except that it sort of sounds like you are keeping score.
Hint: keeping score is a good way to ruin a marriage, so break the habit before you walk down the aisle. From the vows on out, everything is equally his and yours --- you have a share in all things ---- that's what it really means. It might seem scary but it all turns out well, I promise.
Congratulations and have a very happy life together!
2007-11-12 17:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people you invite will be no shows anyway unless you are putting on something really extravagant for your reception. It is your wedding/reception, if you choose to keep it small, that is up to you.
2007-11-12 16:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to keep your wedding small as you want to, and invite only close relatives.
2007-11-12 16:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not unless you get them to send money or something.
Catered wedding?
2007-11-12 16:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋