My g/f's period has been late for 3 months in a row now. And each time we have to have "The talk" on what we're going to do. I really can't take it anymore. This month she had her period on the day we were going to buy a home pregnancy test! I'm only 21 and don't think I need to worry about marriage and babies jussst yet. More just looking for support than an answer.
2007-11-12 08:16:22 · 19 answers · asked by mikess484 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am going to talk to you the way I would talk to any of my friends who are doing something completely stupid . . . so don't get offended . . . and hopefully I won't get reported for this.
Are you F*cking Stupid? You had how many talks with her regarding birth control . . . 3, 4, 6, a dozen and she hasn't gotten any birth control. What about you . . . you idiot!!! Can't you buy condoms? Are you afraid what people may think of you when you put them on the counter or the belt on the store to buy them? Grow up . . . or something may happen that may force you to grow up faster than you are used to . . . "wahhhhhhhhhhhhh! would you change the diapers . . . "
Even if she is on birth control . . . you should always be wrapping that thing up. Not all birth control is effective . . . so wearing a condom provide a little additional protection.
Thing is . . . I think she is trying to get herself pregnant. You had sooo many talks and she haven't obtained birth control. Take her to planned parenthood . . . if you meet certain criterias they will provide it to her . . . in some cases free. I am willing to wager, she didn't even go to the doctor or planned parenthood . . . did she?
Thing is . . . you only have a few options . . .
1) Wrap it up . . . and take your chances
2) Make sure she get and takes the birth control . . . but still wrap it up (she may conveinently forget to take it)
3) Dump her a** and find someone who have more respect for you.
4) Be a daddy or shall I say, a wallet to her choice of lifestyle (because I have a feeling, after she gets pregnant . . . she is going to kick you to the curb and have you pay for her lifestyle . . . if you are not dumb enough to marry her.
Basically . . . she is trying to trap you a** and make you do the right thing.
My advice is cut your loses . . . and dump her . . . and tell her why.
2007-11-15 05:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her, she wil definitely understand. She would probably agree, especially if she doesn't want to get pregnant anytime soon. Tell her how you feel about the late periods, and that birth control would help. Everything will turn out ok. You are thinking smarter than most guys out there. That's the key: think ahead of what might happen, and the consequences.
good luck!
2007-11-12 08:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by nikkiebushnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you using birth control yourself? You can't blame her if you refuse to do your part. If you aren't you are being just as irresponsible as she is. It sounds like you are the type to plan things out. Plan this out as well. Even if she does go on birth control, how will you know if she's really using it or if she'll say "I forgot" and you find yourself a father before you are ready to be one. Come straight out and tell her that either something is done (Offer to go with her) or you two can't be together. Unless you are ready to be an oops parent then by all means go with the flow. If you two are mature enough to be having sex then you should be mature enough to discuss the consequences before something happens that neither of you are ready for.
2007-11-12 08:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's both partners' responsibilities ... yours and hers. Have you been using a condom? If not, why? If you're not ready for a child and she's not on birth control, don't you feel that it's just as much your responsibility as it is hers? Has she agreed to go on birth control, or is it that you have been insisting on her doing so? Do you realize that not all women are able to take the pill or the shots ... they make some women very ill. Have you agreed to go to the gynecologist with her and help her pay for both the visit and the birth control method, or do you feel it is totally her responsibilty?
2007-11-12 08:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Patti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with hulk. You need to step up to not just your grilfriend birth control comes with side effects. If she dosen't want to take the pill and you should have been doing this in the first place I'm assuming that you aren't from the details of your passage then you should wear a condom.
2007-11-12 08:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mocha C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get on birth control. There's no fancy way of saying it. Just tell her she needs to be on it. Offer to drive her to the doctor. Offer to pay for the doctor visit. Offer to pay for the first month's prescription. Offer to set a timer to remind her to take the pills everyday. Or maybe try the patch or something like that. But don't let the uncomfortableness of not knowing to to bring it up let you continue this cycle. It's more stressful thinking she might be pregnant.
2007-11-12 08:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are not wanting to be a daddy right now. Sounds like she might actually be wanting to get pregnant bc she hasn't done anything as far as taking pre-cautionary steps. Just tell her straight out that she needs to get the pill, or you won't have sex with her anymore. But that's besides the point... you should be using a condom anyway!!!!!
2007-11-12 08:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Chicka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can say "I think you should try the pill"! You don't have to beat around the bush. Explain to her y ou guys are young and you are not ready for a family. She should understand.
Oh, try to be careful about what "you" are doing. If you trust her enough to not use a condom (or do you) then be as careful as you would be if you had a bomb in your pants that would explode if you move the wrong way...LOL.
GOOD LUck!
2007-11-12 08:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by BitterSwt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are not ready for a baby and ask that she go on birth control I would advise though that if she wants a baby or you suspect that she wants a baby then wear a condom because she may tell you that she is on it when she is not
2007-11-12 08:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the same way you wrote it. Why are you going to bring a kid to life if you are not ready for it. If she has a fit it will be because she is still not ready for the type of relationship you think you have with her. Think about it...
2007-11-12 08:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by mom in training 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋