Are these signs he might purpose soon? He couldn't believe all his friends were married. We were at Petco and I mentioned I would like a bird and he said we could get one when we live together. He showed me the weather for this week where I said I would like to move and he said we in the conversation.
2007-11-12 08:08:13 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He and I don't believe moving ni before marriage
2007-11-12 08:25:15 · update #1
Don't pack your clothes yet. It is easy to see that you would say yes, but reading between the lines you are nowhere ready. You are asking questions that you should already have the answer for if you ready for marriage. It sounds like you have a lot more to learn about him before you are ready.pp
2007-11-12 08:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, men are very difficult to read. The fact that he is dropping "we" statements is good because he sees you as a couple. The comment about the bird sounds like he may be thinking of "moving in together" rather than proposing but that would depend on the type of relationship you have set up.
If, from the beginning of your relationship you made it clear that you would not live with a man until you were married to him... you might be in luck! However, if you did not make this apart of who you are, he might think that moving in together is the next step. Is this the step you want to take? If so, then great. If not, you might have some stuff to work out together.
I am hoping that if he is the man for you he is thinking about proposing. It sounds like you would love for him to propose!
If you haven't already, make sure that you and he are on the same page about ...EVERYTHING! Talk about kids, how many? Talk about religion, What religion will you practice together?(This can become a BIG issue once you are married and especially after you have kids. Find a religion that you can agree to practice TOGETHER.) Ask him about his future dreams and goals, What does he want to be? Where does he want to live? Observe him with his family. How does he treat his mom and sisters. He will likely treat you the same way as time goes on. Talk about things that might seem uncomfortable like, Do you like to watch pornography? (Porn can become a huge addiction for people and can cause great turmoil in a relationship). Is there anything painful or difficult from his past you should know about? Crimes, relationships etc.
After it is all said and done, if you don't both feel the same way about the big things....it doesn't matter that he smells great, makes lots of money and treats you well (right now). The big things are what will break the relationship later, you can work on the small things. If it doesn't all match up(and you can't compromise to make it match), there is someone out there for you that will "match up".
I hope that you are able to work things out with your sweetheart and that before you know it he will propose! Then, you will marry, start your life together and buy a bird!
Good Luck! I'm crossing my fingers for you.
2007-11-12 16:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by Leslie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking about when you will live together is a long off from proposing marriage. I know couples who live sometimes 8 years and more before getting married, and then usually get quickly divorced.
Make sure he's not just getting the milk for free (why buy the cow then?)
2007-11-12 16:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far all I see is that he intends for you to live together at some point. This does not necessarily mean a proposal of marriage. I think if I were you I'd take a wait and see attitude about this one. People often speak of things in the future but we never really know how far in the future they are speaking of.
2007-11-12 16:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't count on it. Moving in a proposing are WAY different things (assuming that implies that he's going to ask about moving in together). Have the two of you ever talked about marriage?
2007-11-12 16:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ararodiel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend does not want to get married. He wants a platonic relationship to live together. If he wanted to marry you he would have asked you or even said so. Please if you do not want a platonic relationship tell him so, so you both can be on the same page. Once you enter this type of relationship he is not going to change his mind and ask you to marry him for a normal relationship. These platonic relationships always end in hurt and a lot of heartbreak.
2007-11-12 16:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, so please don't start planning a future with this guy until or unless he actually proposes marriage because you would be setting yourself up for unnecessary disappointment. Since no one here knows your guy we have no way of knowing what he might be thinking, feeling or planning.
Relax and enjoy this relationship just as it is - taking one step at a time, one day at a time.
I wish you peace.
2007-11-12 16:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont want him to propose to you just because your friends are all married right? Just be patient.. maybe he's having some plans about living together. Good luck!
2007-11-12 16:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by clarisse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible he's planning to propose if he won't move in with you without being married first. If this is not his belief, then he may just want to move in somewhere together.
2007-11-12 16:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said that he said "when we live together" when we "live together" and getting married are 2 different things and i don't care what anybody says !!
its your choice, but if you really WANT to get married,DONT move in and "live together". so, yeah, i could see where you would get that impression,but just be careful, don't let yourself get hurt. keep in mind, he might be thinking,"gee, I really care about this person,maybe i would like to test the waters... it seems thats what happens allot then people get comfortable and don't want to make the TRUE commitment.
2007-11-12 16:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by crazartgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋