Please help.. i'm feeling suicidal..?

Question

i'm 18, i've been feeling down and depressed for a few months now and it won't go away..

it seems to me the only way out is to end it all..

i confided in a friend and she seems to have distanced herself from me..

what can i do?

Answer 1

I think that although you are so depressed that you can't see a way out of it - you don't really want to go through with suicide or you wouldn't be looking for an answer. There is an answer - don't do it! Take a deep breath and realize that nothing is unsolvable.

Look in the phone book and see if there is a hotline that you can call. A hotline will have people there who understand how you are feeling.

There are also sources on the internet, kind of like internet suicide hotlines. There are also people who will respond who can help you past this feeling.

That's for the moment, but I urge you to look for counseling for the future. Ask your regular doctor or your insurance company for a referral. If there is a friend or family member you can ask, maybe they can recommend someone. At the very least look in the phone book! No one should continue feeling as you do.

Please - just sit back and don't do anything drastic right now. There is help and there is hope. I'm going to look up some resources on the internet and I'll come back and add them.

p.s. 2 weeks ago I went to the funeral of a young man I knew who committed suicide. It still haunts me, so I can't imagine how his parents, family members, and friends must be feeling. Smart, talented, wonderful - gone. You know what suicide is? It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. There are many better solutions to any problem. Please get help! We care . . . .

Answer 2

There are several things you should do. First of all, go to the doctor. It could change everything. I recently started taking antidepressants and have seen a world of difference. It takes a while for the meds to kick in, though, so be patient for about 4-6 weeks. Oh, and sometimes it's hard to find the right medication to work for you. Keep trying!

It would also be good to find a therapist. Having someone to talk to can really help. It is not for crazy people, it's for anyone who just needs an outlet and sometimes a second opinion on how they're feeling.

As for your friendship issue, I have been through many friendship problems because of my depression. Your friend is probably very scared and most likely confused as to what is going on with you. Just talk to her and make sure she understands what truly is going on. It might be difficult but if you see your doctor, start therapy, and talk to this friend she will DEFINETLY see a difference and will become closer to you again.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

a lot of people freak out when they hear the word "suicide". It seems that people don't understand, first off, how COMMON it is to have suicidal thoughts, and second off, that there's a world of difference between having a passing thought, and truly being prepared to carry it out. People tend to freak out if you talk that way, and it doesn't help anything. I'm sorry you've had such bad luck finding support, someone you can confide in, you need it right now.

So I suggest you make a phone call and talk to someone who knows enough not to freak out. Call 1-800-suicide. They'll listen without judging or freaking out on you, and, you really need to talk through your feelings with someone who won't judge you for them. They can also help you brainstorm a follow-up plan - do you want to go to counselling? How serious are your thoughts, do you need to go somewhere faster than that? Knowledge is power, and I think the more you learn about what it means to reach out for help, the less scary and intimidating it will seem.

Answer 4

it seems you confided in the wrong friend. :( it's pretty scary to hear a friend say something like that though, maybe she just needs some time to accept/understand what you mean by what you told her. maybe you could have another conversation with her or find someone else to talk to while you wait for your friend to come around. It probably feels like you are the only person feeling as terrible as you do right now, but I promise there are many people out there who feel the same way. Most literature and art are inspired by feelings like loneliness and a sense of hopelessness. All I can tell you is you are not alone and that you need to find someone who will listen and support you.... and that your depression will pass. just when you think you've lost all hope, something changes, and then Life seems a bit less terrible. hang in there. find someone to talk to and this might help you figure out where the depression came from in the first place. it could stem from something in your past that you need to deal with, or maybe it's even a chemical imbalance? Proper therapy or counseling can really help, especially with the right person!

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Answer 5

Warning, Christian answer:

I suggest that you stop taking anti-depressants medication if you are, unless it is herbal, and turn to God for help first. I also suggest you read what Job, the man mentioned in the Bible went through and read how even when his friends turned against him, he forgave them and prospered after his great loss and pain.

And here is my story:

Without God's love, you will always crave more and more and never be content.

Without a friend that gives you an honest answer when you want one, who gives you one out of love, you will always feel some misery. And if you only have friends that flatter you, you may be depressed knowing that they are doing so because they want to take advantage of you in some way rather than truly loving you, or loving you with a pure love, love which isn't self-seeking.

Also, you may have a poor diet which is causing a chemical imbalance or making you depressed due to its blandness, have past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters), have unpleasant parents, don't have friends or ones that give you bad to no advice when you ask for the help or when it's obvious you need it, you may have a boring getting-no-where life, or you may feel as if you're not getting your way in general (which frustrates everyone who feels that way).

I had problems with depression and suicide due to my parents neglecting my education, including knowledge about right from wrong, and not having much interesting or helpful to do. I also got bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14 and of course, instead of the bullies being punished I was the one who got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends while there (and still have about none). Soon after attending that school I was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out and being mistreated at nearly all the jobs I had by coworkers or bosses who harassed me out of them. But, God saved me and helped me beat my depression and allowed and helped me to accomplish some great things that I can take comfort in having accomplished no matter how miserable. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now since he's opened my eyes.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others.

Answer 6

I agree with Nita; you need to talk to the people you love and who love you - your family and the REAL friends around you.

Your GP will probably recommend antidepressants (because they're awfully good at dishing out pills) - that's your call whether you try them, they work for some & not others. They will may also recommend a counsellor, and that option I would definitely accept.

I think that if you are intelligent enough to be asking questions about your issue here, then you are wise enough to know that there is an alternative, and that there is, somewhere, an answer. For me, it was comedy. You should see my dvd collection. ;-)

Get off the pc, get out and be with people. Most of all, take an active interest in them and make them smile. It works, honest!

Answer 7

It's important to distinguish between impulsive acts of self-harm and planned, organised attempts to end your own life.
If you're reading this, you're probably in a lot of pain emotionally or physically, or both. No one takes the decision to end their life without believing there is very good reason. Many people feel that the burdens they have to bear outweigh their coping resources.
please consider these points:
By reading this message you've already put space between your suicidal feelings and your actions. It's worth making more space, and putting off the decision until you've spoken to someone who might be able to help you with your pain. Don't burden yourself by trying to cope alone. Just talking about how you came to feel this way releases a lot of pressure, which might be exactly the additional coping resource that you need.
Be careful who you speak to about your feelings. Some people simply won't understand. They may feel frightened or angry - this has more to do with their state of mind than yours - and may make your pain worse. But there are people who understand and can help you through this traumatic time. One option is getting in touch with your local community mental health team (you can reach them via your GP or your local accident and emergency department). If you're worried that they'll force you to go to hospital, then try the Samaritans.
Feeling suicidal is in itself a traumatic experience, quite apart from the circumstances that led you to feel this way. Once you've got through this, it's absolutely essential that you continue to look after yourself and get the support that you need. The Samaritans or Mind can put you in touch with support groups in your area.

Answer 8

Ask yourself first what it is that has you down. (I already know the initial answer is "I don't know" ...) but search inside of yourself, think back to when it started....something started it all.

Think about weather you can change what brought you down. Write down everything you think it might be. Keep this list with you when you go to the Dr.

Go to your regular Doctor and ask for a referral to a Mental Health professional....or find a Mental Health Professional that is near you and go. Most all of them have an emergency area that will hurry you through so that you can see the Dr sooner. The feeling of suicide is NOTHING to play around with.

Once you find a Dr. talk with him about this list. It will help in diagnosing you and will also save some time during your visit. It will also show him/her that you are serious about getting better and want to work with him to have a healthy, normal, non-suicidal life once again.

An emergency room can help you also, although you might end up sitting there for a few hours until someone can get to you. But, its better than being alone, wanting to die.

Your friend is scared, that is why she distanced herself from you. Its difficult for people to handle death and its even more difficult for people to handle death when its a friend wanting to die. Try to understand that she is as scared as you are, just about different things.

Please, go talk to a Dr. today. Or go to the emergency room, today. You need to get help TODAY..no matter where its from. Accept their help openly, even if you don't like the idea of it at the time...(meds or hospitalization or therapy).....they CAN and WILL help, as long as you're willing to seek them out.

Good luck and know that you are in my prayers.

Answer 9

first of all you need to find out why you have become depressed. second, you should go see a doctor about it or consult with your parents. you are only 18, there is no reason why you should be depressed. but i'm sure there is an underlying reason for it, and you have to try to overcome it. go out, have fun! keep yourself busy.. i wish i can help you more, but i don't know much about you and your problems. but hope it helps. i really wish you the best and will pray for you. i know how it feels to be depressed, and it's a terrible thing. i'm still trying to get over it. because it hurts not only your mind, but your body. and btw, your friend is probably scared and dont' know what to do, but if she is really your friend, she will be by your side.

Answer 10

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Seek some counseling fast. You need some help, especially if think of suicide. What ever your problem there are solutions. You would leave your problem behind, be you would bring more problems to family and friends than you could ever imagine. I lost my husband to suicide and there is nothing worse or any death that is worse.
Search for suicide hot lines on the Internet, they have people for you to talk to by phone. The are also groups around search for any groups in your area that can relate to your problem. There are many support group on line too, I belong to 2 of them and they are great to help get through things.
If you would like to talk let me know, my e-mail address is on my profile. People your age are very susceptible to this and you might be interested to know the statistics and how it affect those left behind. If it is because of a girl===forget it, it isn't worth it there are more fish in the sea.=====