boyfriend and pornography????

Question

Alright, well me and my boyfriend tell each other EVERYTHING, so whenever we end up on a sexual topic, we talk about masturbating and things like that, but whenever he mentions looking at pornography, I get really jealous and sensitive. I also get really angry that he was looking at some other girl's body besides mine. Is this so wrong? Plus, we got in a huge huge huge fight last time he mentioned it. Is that so bad that I get so sensitive? How can I get this jealousy and anger away from me? Plus, he doesn't get angry if I get upset. He just reassured me and told me that he loved me. It's just, whenever I think about it, I feel like extremely pissed off. What can I do?

Answer 1

My boyfriend looks at porn all the time but he also prefers me over porn any day. Just try to relax and understand that to guys, looking at porn is a way of relaxing and they are very aware that it is not real. I know how it could be hurtful but just think of how much more hurtful it would be if he was actually cheating. In my experience with boyfriends and male friends, most guys look at porn. It's almost not normal if they do.

Answer 2

It is understanding that it might upset you but you have to realize men are very visual creatures. Do you mean to tell me that you don't notice a hot guy when you see him? You turn off the TV when you see a man that isnt 100% clothed??

When I had the same problem with my current BF I asked him what it was that was so captivating about it for him. He asked me to watch with him so I conceded to do it and now we watch together on most occasions. It has enhanced our sex life by giving us new ideas. And it has gotten me over my insecurities and now I dont even think twice about it when he watches.

Answer 3

Try breaking it down. What exactly upsets you? These aren't ex-girlfriends he's looking at. They're women who are paid to pose in a certain way (like clothing models) and have all their imperfections airbrushed out of them. Are you jealous because you don't look like them? Do you think he's going to contact the magazine, obtain the model's phone number, and hook up with her? Find out what your problems are first, so you can figure out ways to fix them.

I understand that you don't want him to look at another woman's body, but he's doing it as an aid to his own pleasure. You're not there all the time, so he might need some visual stimulation. A lot of men and women are like that. There's no harm in it. He's not cheating on you. He's been doing it long before he met you. He's not looking at these women thinking, "Wow, I wish my girlfriend looked like that!". He's thinking, "Ooh, a naked chick." I bet you he doesn't even look at her face!

If you don't like it, why not make him a magazine of yourself in dirty poses? Or look at it with him? Watch a video together. Masturbate together. Give him something to think about and fantasize about without having a book in front of him.

Answer 4

There is a difference between fantasy and reality. The porn in your boyfriends mind is just a fun toy, but having a real woman is better and he understands that. Just as long as he isn't physically cheating on you

Answer 5

its not really that big of a deal that your man looks at porn, i bet 99% of men watch it....If you are comfortable enough to talk about sex and masturbating how is it so bad that he looks at it....i would be pissed if he were to hide it from me but if he is open with you and lets you know thats a good thing....i'd rather watch it with my man instead of getting pissed off to me its really not that big of deal its just porn, at least he aint out having sex with some one else, be grateful that you have a man that lets you know whats going on instead of hiding it and lieing to you

Answer 6

ok i think its normal to get jealous

Answer 7

he don't like to see your beautiful body baby , he like other girls, that is bad..