*Can any one enlighten me on this matter?*?

Question

Assalaam Alaykum

So I understand it is the man's job to provide and Insha'Allah they will be rewarded for their efforts. However having a conversation with someone they informed me that even though the woman helps to provide and does it for thesake of Allah (swt), i.e. helping parnets, they would not get rewarded as much as it is the man's job....

Im very confused as when I relate it to my situation I do my upmost best to help my parnets, as it is a commandment from Allah (wt) to keep them happy and to obey them.

My question is, is there any evidnce for what this person has said to me???

Answer 1

Surely, men who submit themselves to GOD and women who submit themselves to Him, and believing men and believing women, and obedient men and obedient women, and truthful men and truthful women, and men steadfast in their faith and steadfast women, and men who are humble and women who are humble, and men who give alms and women who give alms, and men who fast and women who fast, and men who guard their chastity and women who guard their chastity and men who remember God much and women who remember Him - God has prepared for all of them forgiveness and a great reward.

Surely, the men who give alms and the women who give alms, and those who lend to Allah a goodly loan - it will be increased manifold for them, and theirs will also be a honourable reward -

Allah burdens not any soul beyond its capacity. It shall have the reward it earns, and it shall get the punishment it incurs.

Holy Quran

She (Women) is equal to man in bearing personal and common responsi- bilities and in receiving rewards for her deeds. She is acknowledged as an independent personality, in possession of human qualities and worthy of spiritual aspirations. Her human nature is neither inferior to nor deviant from that of man. Both are members of one another. God says:

And their Lord has accepted (their prayers) and answered them (saying): 'Never will I cause to be lost the work of any of you, be he male or female; you are members, one of another... (Quran)

Answer 2

The Quran states that "Whoever does the smallest amount of good will see it." If anything women do more for men than the other way in terms of cooking and cleaning. So they will be rewarded as such. In fact if a woman pays for family then she gets double the reward because its not obligatory for her. This is the same thing for a married wife who provides for her husband and he would have to pay her back when he can.

So what he is saying is wrong Allah/God is generous - the most generous of those who show generosity. So he won't show us anything other when Believers in him do good work.

Answer 3

That person spoke of her own accord. Don't believe her.

What if the man is unable to provide? He is out of a job, or he has an accident and becomes disabled. The woman does not get as much reward because it is not her duty to provide?

Rubbish.
Please, when someone says something to you like this, let them provide the evidence or not speak.

Answer 4

Well look at this.
themans job is to provide for the family but the lady takes care of it.
I dont know if thats true but if it is ull get more reward then ur husband if u take care of th efamily.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Bukhari, Vol 2 book 24 hadith 545
" Zainab asked of the Prophet Mohammed(SAW) if it will be sufficient for her to spend part of the Zakat on her husband and ophans under her protection." The Prophet said,"Yes,(it is sufficient for her) and she will receive a double rewards for it: One for helping her relatives, and one for giving Zakat."


there are also Hadiths which speak about Allah(SWT) and how He never tires of giving rewards for good deeds and intentions..

Answer 6

I have never heard of any such evidence. I think your reward is most likely bigger as it is not your duty to spend on your parents. Of course if God is satisfied with you and your parents are satisfied with you then you will live a happy life and then will be in the best places of paradise in the hereafter insha'allah.

Answer 7

Salaam Alaykum,
our duties as Muslim woman are 1. To Allah SWT 2. to our parents as they have cared for us and the way to Jannah is under your mother's feet...Your husband and children...Although this burden is great...the marriage and family in Islam is extremely important and when the husband is able to care for everyone financially that would be ideal, but in these days many Muslim woman are educated and professionals and relieve the finacial burden as when both
partners have a career is OK as long as the woman does not neglect her duties to AllahSWT or family.
WaSalaam

Answer 8

there is no evidence whatsoever of what that person told you.
a woman 's good deeds and actions are weighed by God in the same way as men .
there is no difference between a man and a woman in reward and punishment.
help your parents and God will pay you for your obedience of His commandment.
jazaki allah khairan.

Answer 9

NO! insha-Allah you should get even more reward because it is not ur duty to provide for the family...as for making ur parents happy, yes that is a duty upon every muslim, and insha-Allah u will be rewarded for that too!

Answer 10

Well, I am not of your religion hun, so I can't explain it to you in the way a religion (yours or any one elses) would.

I can advise you to look within yourself and decide what you believe, if you think Allah would favor a man over a woman, or if you think Allah loves you all equally. You have to give yourself answers as far as this goes.

Also, biblebeaters (they are bound to show up) respect another persons beliefs the way they respect yours.

Answer 11

Mmm u should not give a penny...coz it is ur money and u have the right to spend it in whatever u like ...ur husband should not accept money from u in the household...but u will be rewarded...coz Alla see our intentions inshaAllah