I am sure most of you on here see them pretty regularly but, do any of you live too far away and don't see them as often as you like? My daughter sent me a picture of my 14 1/2 year old grandaughter. I was shocked! Although I knew she was gorgeous ( Nannies perogotive) I had no idea she looked about 17. I haven't seen her for 18 months and what a difference that time makes.
It's 18months since I saw any of my '8' due to work and distance committments but at least the internet keeps us in touch!
2007-11-12 08:00:30 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Jeanimus, they will always 'want' us old grannies!
2007-11-12 08:07:30 · update #1
Moorman9, You make me feel really guilty! I know distance in the USA is no problem because you are a vast country. Over here in the UK I am ashamed to say I only live about 220 miles away from my Family but because I have to go around London (on the dreaded M25) it can take 5hrs or longer. On a good day 2hrs 30 mins but, to me it's still a bit of a marathon.
2007-11-13 02:37:59 · update #2
Mountain, I am so sorry, How sad!
2007-11-13 02:41:03 · update #3
Shan, why do people do this, use children as weapons? It's so not fair on the kids. Hopefully, as they grow older they will be in touch. Families are so important.
2007-11-13 02:43:25 · update #4
Our 17 year old granddaughter comes to stay occasionally, but since we fell out with our late sons ex wife we aren't allowed to see our 3 grandsons. It's been five years now since we've seen them.
I just hope they remember us and come to find us when they are old enough to make their own choice!
My husband has grandchildren from his first marriage that visit and they all call me grandma so all is not lost!
hugs x
2007-11-12 09:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We see our grandchildren every week in some combination or other. We have 4, 2 boys and 2 girls. One of our daughters is a nurse and her partner is a bus driver so they work shifts, bank holidays and unsocial hours. Between both sides of grandparents we look after the children and they stay over almost every weekend. I was very close to my grandparents and miss them dreadfully now they have gone. I want our 4 to feel the same about us. We are lucky the furthest away any of them are is 30 miles and we meet halfway sometimes and spend the day together. We will have the full squad on Christmas Day and it will be brilliant. They grow up too soon so make the most of it. Mind you I went to see my granny and grandad all their lives and it never became a chore.
2007-11-12 08:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by takethatfan 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I see our local grandson maybe once a month. He is content
to stay home and play with his electronic games. He will stop
by with his mother if she drops in on the way to someplace
else. We don't go there, because our daughter and husband
have such limited spare time,and we don't want to infringe.
Our youngest grandson, we've only spoken to over the phone once. And his older half brother we saw only a few
times as a toddler. Both are from the same family and we
have been shunned from being around them, since they are
JW's. The eldest is out on his own, and we have no idea where he can be. So we don't expect to ever see him again.
Same for the youngest who's a JW. He was so excited to
know he had another grandma who cared about him. And he
was so pleased to talk to the grandpa he'd not known about
either. Grandparents who have their grandchildren in their
lives are so blessed. It has been torture, not being able to
see our oldest grandson grow. And he probably doesn't
know we exist, since the little one didn't. Hopefully in my next
life, I'll get it right, and have my family around me forever.
2007-11-12 18:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm really lucky. My 3 granddaughters live within a 10 minute drive of my house, along with my 2 daughters. Last weekend, my 14 year old (eldest) granddaughter was rushed into Leeds General Infirmary with Quinces and to see her on drips and so ill was heartbreaking. But guess what, within 3 days she bounced back and is now well again.
2007-11-13 07:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live on a different continent. I have not been back to the U.S. for two years, so it has been that long. I too am shocked they have grown from babies to teenagers, and teenagers to university students. I have missed a lot. My choice though. I love them dearly, but I was a single mother with 5 and when the last one left the nest, I was single and free of responsibility for the first time since 17, so I am spending a few selfish years getting to know myself. Perhaps I can be the grandma they envision for my greatgrandchildren. I am certainly not the storybook grandmother, more like Auntie Mame. I have invited them all to join me for a vacation, but they prefer party places, and I am in China...not on their list of places they want to go.
2007-11-13 06:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by Enosfolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wife and I have two that live about 9 miles down the road and we she the oldest (she's four) at least once or twice a week.
The other four live on the other side of the state which is about a two hour drive on a clear day
2007-11-12 11:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by UncleBuck 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I saw mine the last weekend of the World Series. They live just up the hill from me, about two miles away. The oldest granddaughter is a junior in college. The second one is a senior in high school. Oldest grandson is a freshman in high school. Youngest is in middle school. Their schedules are full and it is a lot of fun when I can see them all at the same time.
2007-11-12 08:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by mydearsie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am like you, as my Grandchildren, and Great grandchildren, live 3,000 miles away. It is very soul destroying, as you miss a lot of their childhood, but that happened also with my own Daughter when she left the Country, and had two children. I do go and see them, but not as often as often as I would like, but I find that we have a lot of heartbreaks when one gets older.. There are lots of people just like us, that have to grin and bear it. After all I have found that the elderly in this Country do not count with the young ones today, and most of them do not see anybody from one day to the next. As you say the Internet is the only way we get news of them...
2007-11-12 08:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Am fortunate to see 5 of 7 Grandchildren nearly every day. The other 2, although they don't live near-one babbles to me nearly every day and the other tells me Night-Night, nearly every day. The 2 that aren't close have thick cardboard photo albums with pictures of close relatives. We see them about 6 times a year.
2007-11-13 13:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by kriend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We try to see our Granddaughter Olivia every other weekend when she comes to stay with her Dad.Like so many people her parents split up when she was about a year old, but very fortunately her Mum and Dad are the best of friends and never make a problem about visits. We have managed to keep very good friends with Olivia's mum and she often visits us for a meal or coffee. It makes us wonder why they didn't try harder to stay together, but we never ask questions about what happened.Olivia is our only granddaughter and we love her dearly.
2007-11-13 04:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋