I'm 15 but VERY matured for my age. My boyfriend is 21. Does the 6 year age gap matter?
2007-11-12 07:51:47 · 70 answers · asked by Rachel V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i don't think so
2007-11-12 07:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by shanta 1 · 1⤊ 7⤋
6 years age gap isn't too much for age difference. Me and my bf have a 6 year gap age difference. I'm 20 and he's 26. However, I don't know how a 15 year old and a 21 year old would work out in a relationship. He's a grown up with more freedom than you have, while you don't yet. Also, you both are in different life stages, so it's not going to be easy to find things in common between you both. Maybe if you are older, it's reasonable and most people wouldn't care. It's just that laws make it a problem for an underage person with a legal aged person.
2007-11-12 07:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by =P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
does age matter? it very much depends on the specific thing you are asking for... but in your case, unfortunately it does. first of all, you need to leave this guy alone if you really do love him, for his own well-being. he could get into major legal issues because of you... and on the outside, it won't matter how "in love" you are. the fact of the matter is, it's illegal. and from my own experience, 6 years isn't so bad of a gap... WHEN YOU'RE AN ADULT. when you're 15, you have no idea what you want or need... even though you "think" you do. and then by the time you're 21, you want totally new and different things than you did a few years earlier. the change from 15-21 is so significant, that even if it WASN'T illegal, it doesn't make much sense. besides, you're too young to be talking about being in love and settling down. be single, have fun, be young, and most importantly, BE SMART AND PROTECTIVE about it. by the time you're 21, you don't wanna have regrets.
2007-11-12 08:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My gut feeling considering that you are 15 and he is 21 is yes - it matters. To say nothing of the potential distress such a relationship could cause, it's illegal for you to be sexually active and would hesitate to trust any adult man who is willing to wait three years for sex. I don't mean to sound jaded, but it's simply a natural urge for most men and VERY difficult to resist. I married young and my husband is four years older than I am. In the long run, that doesn't seem like much, but when one of you is sexually mature and the other is not, it can be a problem. My husband was very firm about not letting things get out of hand before I was of age and your boyfriend really needs to be as well. He should not push you and you should not push him. If you're already sexually active, consider your risks extremely carefully - legal, emotional and physical.
Having said that however, my husband and I are well-matched and I don't think maturity is necessarily the issue here. If you decide to keep this relationship going, be prepared to face a lot of disapproving people. I wish you both the very best of luck and urge you to be honest with yourself and with him!
2007-11-12 08:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES. He could go to prison. You are a minor, your relationship is against the law. Doesn't matter if you think you are mature, you are still 15 and in the eyes of the law it is illegal. You are still growing and developing, he is a young mature man. You aren't even old enough to drive. Sorry Hun, you may think this is love, but if he truly loved you, he at his age wouldn't be in a relationship with you until you are at least 18. He could be charges with statutory rape, even if your intimacy is consensual, by law it is statutory rape, which also he could have to vary likely be put on the sex offenders list and be listed as a sexual predator child pedophile. Sorry, I didn't make the law, but that is the law. If you love him truly, you would never risk his freedom like this or him getting into lots of legal trouble. He could get time. Haven't you ever heard the saying, 16 will give ya 20. this means mess with even a 16 yr. old, you can get 20yrs. in prison. And sorry but telling the judge, I'm in love and very mature, won't suffice.
2007-11-12 08:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is very dangerous ground. In today's day and age it is a crime for your 21 year old boyfriend to have a relationship with you, no matter how mature you may feel. Take the time to examine the situation before you convince yourself it is love. He may or may not feel the same way. If he does he should wait until he is legally able to have a relationship with you. Right now he is literally jeopardizing his freedom in being with you. Just be careful this doesn't go too far.
2007-11-12 08:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by mindyjw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this case I'd say yes, age does matter. A 21 year old has had a lot more life experience than a 15 year old. I'd be careful with this guy. He may be really nice and have good intentions, but for an outsider, this relationship seems strange.
2007-11-12 07:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Peaches 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The six year age gap won't matter in 5 years, but right now in most states any sexual activity between you two would be considered rape.
And being mature "for your age" is still not as mature as a full-grown adult with more life experience. It's not a great power structure for a relationship.
2007-11-12 07:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by Maple 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At 15 yes it does matter. A guy who is 21 should be out with other adults, that being someone who is over 18. At 15 you can be very mature but the problem with that is that a guy who is interested in hanging with a 15 year old is NOT.Not only is there something odd about that kind of a guy, but it is also very ilegal in any state I can think of.
2007-11-12 07:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A six year age gap doesn't matter except in the case of minor vs adult. I know it may seems that you are mature, but when you get a little older you'll look back and realized that you've learned a lot since you were 15. you'll see that you undestand yourself better and know a lot more about relationships. timing is eveything and its ok to waite until you're older b/4 dating adults. He will move way to fast for you!!! take care of yourself and don't let anyone take advantage of you. best advice : take this time to focuse on you (college).
2007-11-12 08:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You might think you're very mature, but you can only reach a certain level of maturity at that age regardless, and 21 years is not that level. There is nothing in common with a 15 and 21 year old. You're hardly in high school and worried about how much allowance your mom will give you or how you're ever going to get a job at Tim Horton's to pay to go to the mall with your friends. He is worried about living and paying rent and bills and starting a life. He obviously is a tool and is only using you to get into your pants or because he can't get a girlfriend his age.
2007-11-12 07:56:19 · answer #11 · answered by Curt S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋