the guy i just started seeing and i are getting along fantastically(we're dating, but not 'officially' bf and gf). we have constant conversation and there's pretty much no awkward moments or silences, we are comfortable with what the other has to say. that is, except for the fact that he talks about his exes. alot. not good, or bad, just in general. it seems that every story he tells starts off with "there was this girl i was dating"... i dont know whether to take it as a good thing or bad thing... any advice??
2007-11-12 07:41:03 · 17 answers · asked by Britt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he has dated a little 2 many girls -- u shud be telling him this
2007-11-12 07:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by house_md 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, no longer probably, that replaced into all his previous and you're his contemporary and destiny. He has only dated quite some females and doubtless a million to many yet come on, you are the on he loves. If he does it slightly to plenty, seek for suggestion from with him. Ask him why he's often conversing approximately his exes.
2016-10-02 05:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by prindle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really, that was all his past and you are his present and future. He has just dated a lot of girls and maybe 1 to many but come on, you're the on he loves. If he does it a little to much, consult with him. Ask him why he's always talking about his exes.
2007-11-12 07:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mango b. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been through thi with my current bf. When I first meet him on the first date, he talked a LOT about his past ex's. It really bothered me because I think that stories of ex's shouldn't be brought up on first dates. They should belong in the past. That's why I never talked much about my ex, I just kept it brief because I didn't want to be reminded of my past. Anyway, he talks a quite a lot about his ex's and what worries me is that one of them is his best friend now. But he says he doesn't have feelings for her anymore. I think when guys talk about ex's they're just trying to vent out anger or just need to let out unresolved feelings of ex's.
2007-11-12 07:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between talking about his exes and their part in his past and obsessing on them as if he's still attached. That said, it can be annoying to you and a little inconsiderate at times. Maybe you should tell him you would like for him to pay more attention to the present!
2007-11-12 07:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to wait and see how things progress. If your relationship becomes more serious AND he continues to do this, I think you could then mention that he seems to talk a lot about his exes. Or could it be that he is bragging just a little bit to keep you interested?
2007-11-12 08:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't overly bother you unless he's comparing you with them, etc.. But if he continues to constantly talk about ex's then let him know that you would better enjoy talking with him about the "now", and not to dwell so much in the past. "IF" it continues, it sounds like he can't "move on", so maybe you should.
2007-11-12 07:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by David T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you date, the more he will forget about any other relationships. That is if he is not a player. If he is, he will be talking about you to another girl.
2007-11-12 07:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Neil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should be concerned. especially if he talks bad about her. that tells you alot about the man. i know from experience. my ex talked alot of garbage about his ex wife and you know what ? it is him who is no good. pay close attention to those red flags.
2007-11-12 07:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys can talk about anything so why not just tell him that it bugs you a bit?
2007-11-12 07:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not good to be stuck in the past, sounds like he has not found closure in his past relationships.
2007-11-12 07:47:44 · answer #11 · answered by onyx1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋