Is it right for a person to judge your gf. I have this problem a lot. So i would like to put this ? to rest.
2007-11-12 07:21:27 · 12 answers · asked by jo d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you mean by "judge?" If, say, she's shorter/younger/older/thought not as attractive/different color/religion/economic class, and your friends are giving you grief, then you have to ask them "What do you care about more - my being happy or my dating someone who fits your criteria?"
If she treats you well, respects you and herself, and you're a happier, better person around her, then your friends should respect that. If they don't, you might have to repeat "Much as I love you, this is none of your business, so let's move on to something else" until they get the point.
If, however, your friends are complaining because she's unkind/disrespectful/drug-addicted/something else unhealthy/dangerous, then you have to ask yourself what you care about more - having your self-respect, or her.
If the comments you are getting are baseless and untrue, then you ignore them - eventually, people will give up if they don't get a response - or straight out tell them to give it a rest. If you're itchy because there's something to what they say, then you need to give that some thought.
2007-11-12 07:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. We make hundreds of judgments all day long. What to wear, what to eat, where to eat, should I flip that guy off in traffic, lots of judging going on out there. If you're not judging you're brain dead. Is the question really, "should I let this persons' judgments bother me". And the answer is, it depends how much you value that persons opinion. If you don't like them giving their opinion and you're in a position to tell them so, get it off your chest. If it's a supervisor at work or something I would say "I don't care for you to comment on my life outside of the work place". If it's a teacher or parent you may just have to suck it up. You'll live.
2007-11-12 15:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is difference in the ways you judge someone sometimes it's because of hate and jealousy or sometimes that person has judge you but, I don't think it's right to judge though especially if someone is judging some you love.=[
2007-11-12 15:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it really isn't. human problem with judging though is that we judge others for the dumbest, retardest and stupidest reasons and it's seems to alway be based on appearances. we're either too fat or too thin or too black or too white or to short or too tall or too pretty or too ugly or too smart or too dumb. it's always about superficial, shallow reasons.
we never seem to judge based on each other's hearts and the good that we do. we take all the good that is done but we ALWAYS seem to dwell only on judging the teeny-tiny bit of bad that happened and we completely forget that we all are hypocrits and sinners yet we bash and judge others like we are these perfect angels.
2007-11-12 15:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by Leicha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always tend to be opinionated. It's human nature. The thing is, it only bothers you or your girlfriend if you allow it to. I try to teach my students (Martial Arts) to believe in themselves, to do the right thing, and not to judge others. You can have opinions but keep them to yourself if it doesn't affect you, personally. People who spout off at the mouth about things that generally have nothing to do with their own world, need to back off and ask themselves why they interfere in other peoples affairs, so much? Helpfull advise is nice, if asked for, but don't get involved in anothers business unless they are creating a problem or causing injury to another.
2007-11-12 15:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by David T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's never right to judge a person (Judge not, lest ye too be judged) but it's ingrained in our human nature to judge everything around us. we can't help it. what we can help is expressing our personal opinions to everybody else.
2007-11-12 15:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you mean judge or have an opinion? Everyone is entitled to their opinion, however they are not entitled to give it, that is judging.
It is not right to judge a person. Unless they are really sloppy dressers!!
2007-11-12 15:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's not right to judge in the way that you are totally prejudice against them,
but it's alright is say you see a guy that looks thugish, then you'd probably want to be careful about him.
or a woman that dresses to provacatively, you might not want to juump into bed until you know her better.
you get it?
2007-11-12 15:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Judge not lest ye be judged.
2007-11-12 15:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
y would u judge ur gf
2007-11-12 15:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by Val 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋