I don't mind doing it to him...I just don't like anybody pokin around down there because I was molested as a child and it brings back memories...so I REALLY don't like it. Is that weird?
2007-11-12 07:14:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do not think it is weird at all. i was in the same boat as you and still am. i do not mind doing anything to him, but if he tries to touch me i freak. maybe itll go away later on in life. im content right now tho.
2007-11-12 07:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you had been traumatized as a child and it's affecting you in your adult years. Yes, it will create problems in relationships. I strongly suggest you seek counseling and try to get past this or you will drive the men away from you. Foreplay is a way to bond with the person you're with and if all that you want is basic penetration you will turn the man off who you are with. In order to have a healthy sex-life, you need to get closure with this. Seek counseling.
2007-11-12 15:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by David T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not weird at all. If it brings back memories for you then it will ruin the entire experience. Just talk things through with him and let him know why, that way he does not think it is something he is doing wrong.
2007-11-12 15:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by well. its love x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird, but it could become problematic, especially if that's something he wants in bed. Have you ever spoken to a counsellor? I'm just concerned that your past could negatively affect your sexual life beyond this.
2007-11-12 15:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't weird. You may want to confide in a female counselor who specializes in sexual abuse some time in the future.
2007-11-12 15:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by Linda Fallsrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but u should open up and tell him y u dnt lk it cuz he culd take ir personally and if he cares about u AT ALL he'll respect u and ur decision.
2007-11-12 15:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by SiMPly ME. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no that is fine! i was molested too when i was 5 and anything that brings back them memories i totaly hate!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-12 15:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋