Me and my girl been going out for a while now. we had our ups and downs at times... but mostly good times. i dont even know of a bad time i was mad at her and didnt get over it in 3 secs.
igh but w/e she liv out in another area now and i cant see her. and when she around she dont come see me so now im like its w/e.
2007-11-12 07:10:13 · 39 answers · asked by nynetray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no easy way to break up with someone. Someone is always going to be hurt. Please do it in person no matter how you do it.
2007-11-12 07:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by ACCOUNT CLOSED 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the way it sounds is that the relationship is pretty much over already. That is if she doesn't come see you or do anything about it. If there is no contact I would just let it go but if you guys talk you should just explain to her that you guys can still be friends but things are working out because we never spend time together anymore and that is what a relationship is all about.
2007-11-12 07:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by cutegurl97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't break up with someone without hurting them.
What you CAN do is be clear, be final, and allow her to maintain her dignity. Don't give her false hope. Don't blame or demean her, as if you need to show she's a bad person to excuse the breakup. Say it to her preferably in person, but if you can't, then by phone (do NOT text or email). Thank her for the good times and good memories. Don't say "I still want to be friends" (that's an invitation to false hope).
You WILL hurt her. But if you are classy, kind, and final, you will allow her to heal quickly and move on. That's a huge gift you can give to her that is totally within your control.
2007-11-12 07:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she's head over heels no matter what you say, your gonna hurt her. You can try to pull this...
With us being so distant and all, I dont think I can be the boyfriend you derseve. I'm not trying to push you away but I dont 'me' be the reason why you couldnt do or be something. I would love to be selfish and ask you to stay with me, but that wouldnt be fair. and add more sentimental things about how its was awesome being with her and etc...
I tried it and it didnt work. She said she'll stay no matter what and after couple weeks, I just had to break it to her raw.
Good luck
2007-11-12 07:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Billy Joe Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's impossible to break up without hurt. But there are things you can do to soften the blow. Honesty is important, while still leaving out the overly blunt hurtful details. "it's not you its me" is a good approach, although I woudln't say it in such a cliche way. Just say that your feelings have changed, you don't feel connected any more, and you think it would be good for both of you to not be committed right now.
2007-11-12 07:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Janelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends how old u r
if ur out of highschool i cant help u
but if ur still in school just tell her that ur parents r making u because ur grades r bad and they think that shes distracting u from school
theres no real way to do it without hurting her at all but this way minimizes how much shes hurt
another way that might work is 2 make her break up with u by acting really obnoxious around her and stuff like that
2007-11-12 07:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by emobeaver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you break up with her, someone will be hurt. My advice is to speak the truth as gently as possible. It is far easier to get over a break up when the person is honest and direct because somewhere underneath, there will be respect for the person who spoke the truth.
2007-11-12 07:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to her about it?? she might feel the way you do.. Ask her if she thinks yall should go yall different ways.. But if you really are not into her anymore then just let her know and say I just feel like we need to see other people since she has moved and she doesn't come see you when shes near you.
2007-11-12 07:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by Loveable_Lilly _2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont wanna hurt her all you have to tell her is that you have had a amazing time with her but the not seeing her is killing you and for you on sake you want to just be friends so you do hurt yourself anymore than you have too. i hope it helps and if a guy were to say that to me i wouldnt be hurt. cuz he was being honest. best of luck to you
2007-11-12 07:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by insanerockprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to not hurt her feelings. Just be as nice and compliment her and tell her you still want to be friends. She'll still be upset but she'll get over it quicker if you're nice and no mean during the break up.
2007-11-12 07:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by mageta8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur gunna hurt her no matter what even if she wants to break up to so just get it over with. The longer u drag it on the more its gunna hurt u both.
2007-11-12 07:12:58 · answer #11 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋