i have really bad anxiety. how do i explain it to my boyfriend. Right now my anxiety is to the point where i cant go out. and my boyfriend keeps calling me a puss. that really irratates me. i have tried explaining that im trying really hard to get out, and i am on medication for my anxiety but it just hasnt kicked in yet. i want him to help me out instead of calling me a pussy but the only way for him to help is for him to know better what im going threw and once again ive tried to explain it to him but its just like it goes in one ear and out the other. what can i say to him to help him understand?
2007-11-12 07:01:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
anxiety isnt a choice, its not all in the head. anxiety is an actual fear, you cant just "snap out of it"
2007-11-12 07:12:04 · update #1
Doesn't sound like he wants to listen... And you are going to have a difficult time getting over it with out support..
2007-11-12 07:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by pea_nut_26 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have explained it to him. You can't make a person understand what you're feeling. If he's not interested in listening to you, and even worse, he's making you feel bad about it by calling you names, don't put up with it.
I'm on anxiety medication too, and without my fiance's support, life would be a lot more difficult. This is easy for me to say because I'm not in your shoes, but I'd really take my focus off my boyfriend for the time being, and hang out with a friend who is supportive of you.
It's a huge step forward to admit to yourself that you have an anxiety disorder and work on making it better -- so bravo to you! Just don't let an unsupportive person push you a few steps back.
2007-11-12 07:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Pooty Pootwell 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Someone w. your level of anxiety needs to be single. You do not need the added stress of a boyfriend. Any guy that calls you a 'puss' is not worth another minute of your time. You need to realize your inner strength and start putting yourself first. Take care of yourself. Don't count on anyone else to take care of you. Be by yourself and rebuild your self esteem and your self worth. Your boyfriend is obviously too immature to listen to your requests.
2007-11-12 07:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by LJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force anyone to understand your anxiety disorder. If he cannot see that you need his understanding he is not worth it. If he just wants to put you down he is not good for you and your disorder. Get him out of your life. You need someone understanding and that can help you through your bad times.
2007-11-12 07:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down. Ask him if he want this relationship to work, and tell him that you are a partnership. Explain to him about your anxiety and show him the medication. Tell him he aggrivates you when he calls you a *****. Ask him to consider how much this hurts you. And hopefully kiss and make up,
but if not, sling him.
Hope that helped you
2007-11-12 07:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by jasyboi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel that you should have to ellaborate any more than you have. He sounds a little on the childish side and you may need to get rid of him. He belittles you now over something that is out of your control.
Sit him down and try to explain with your parents. If that does not work....It may be time to seperate and find someone that does understand. ;)
2007-11-12 07:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by George G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably cant make him understand what it's like to have anxiety attacks. Unless someone has battled this they will not know what it is like. Anyone who is not willing to be supportive isnt worth wasting your time on.
2007-11-12 07:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you have a boyfriend like that... who doesn't respect you and listen to you and accept that you have anxiety problems well then he defeinitley doesn't deserve you. My girlfriend has the same anxiety problems and i just cope with it and ecourage her and it seems to be working because she is going out more :)
2007-11-12 07:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight out. Say look I'm not kidding. This is a serious complex issue for me and I need you to be understanding about it. Instead of giving me sh** about it, why don't you help me through this.....If he can't, then move on to someone who can.
2007-11-12 07:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by chrissybaby_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to try understanding his frustration at having a girlfriend who is obviously either incapable of going out or choosing to have anxiety (I say choose because far too many people these days choose to be "depressed" or "anxious" when really they're just having a bad time of it or they aren't willing to change anything in their life to make them more happy).
2007-11-12 07:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by morganmadar 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋