My two boys, who are identical twins and, save the odd scrap, have always been very close, started nursery school properly about four months ago. For a couple of weeks they both seemed very happy with the arrangment, and from the chats that I had with the nursery staff, both were fitting in with ease, but I'm now beginning to notice small signs that one of them, probably the most introverted of the two, is becoming less happy with sharing the nursery with his brother.
I've never had them wear the same clothes, and have tried, by letting them decide individually what toys and games they like, to give them each a chance to be their own person, but now one of my boys is constantly asking to be away from his brother, and is either withdrawn and quiet or agressive and, to be honest, just plain nasty around him, and it's starting to worry me; even the staff at their nursery have picked up on it. Is there anything that me and my husband can do to prevent it, but still be fair to both boys?
2007-11-12 06:53:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Sounds like he needs some time away from his brother. He's telling you he wants time away from his brother. No one wants/likes being around the same person 24 hours a day 7 days a week.
You may want to find a nursery that has more than one class room for their age group and separate them. That will give them identity outside of being one of the twins.
You should also try to spend time with each of them individually outside of the house. They will enjoy not having to share your attention for a while.
2007-11-12 07:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Likely this is the first time they have been in this type of social setting and they have just picked up that not everyone has a brother hanging around them all the time!
Separate them, if at all possible. That's what I did with mine and I have never regretted the decision, and mine are now nine. Once separated, they actually missed each other and there were no behaviour problems at home. It also gave the introverted one a chance to spread his wings a bit.
2007-11-14 04:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for him to be in his own class. I'd bring them to different schools if your school doesn't offer separate classes. Once he gets into kindergarten, he won't be in the same class as his brother--they ALWAYS separate siblings. Maybe he'll do really well if they're separated for nursery school.
2007-11-12 11:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-11 06:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a pediatric psychologist.
www.nami.org can help you find one.
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2007-11-12 07:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋