Can you have a maid of honour that has done nothing for you/ or lived up to the role?
I have sorted the dress, the bouquet, the venue, the trousseau etc
She has disrespected me at work (I am in charge when the manager is not there) I asked her a question, as to why she left the builing and did not sign out or report to me, she answered with her back to me.
I never asked her to be maid of honour, when I said I set the date to other workmates she said 'I will be your maid of honour'
Because she has disrespected me at work, I no longer want her as my maid of honour. Surely the MOH should respect the bride to be in all aspects
What do you think of this?
2007-11-12 06:48:48 · 6 answers · asked by Rebz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont have a best friend, I have asked my sister and cousin to be bridesmaids, I only knew this girl since March this year.
I never really wanted her as MOH... I am glad she is no longer maid of honour
2007-11-12 07:03:58 · update #1
She shouted out in front of the office I will be your maid of honour.... so I didnt want to upset her by saying no!
But I hope when she was rude to me at work, she realises that she cant be maid of honour.
I have called the wedding car company and told them that I do not want them picking me up at her add, I will stay with my cousin instead.
2007-11-12 07:11:41 · update #2
First of all, she's NOT ur MOH. U didn't chose her and she is extremely rude to u. Ur MOH should be someone who knows u and will always stick by u. She is not worthy of the title and u didn't even pick her. She can't just tell u that sh'es gonna be ur MOH. U don't owe her anything move on. Have ur best friend or sister b ur MOH. Congrats and Good Luck!!
2007-11-12 06:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're easily pushed around and am surprised that you're (based on this) in a position of authority. Here's what you do when she offers, "That's great, thank you for offering but I already have a plan to ask one of my dearest friends to be maid of honour." Why on earth would you take her suggestion that she do so? If you expected her to turn you into a paragon because you're getting married. Get real. Here's what you do, tell her that you've had a change of heart and a backbone replacement and would like to have one of your friends take the role. You allowed an employee to think of you as a close friend - and, what's worse, one who feels that comes with special privledges.
Good luck.
2007-11-12 06:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lex 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Were you guys really close before all of this happened? First of all, YOU should be the one asking your maid of honor. It was really tacky for her to volunteer herself for the role. A MOH is a very important and honored role (hence the name). It should be someone that you are very close to. Do you really want her to be the one standing right next to you on the happiest day of your life? Do you really think that she will make the day better or worse? I say dump her. You would be better off without a MOH at all.
2007-11-12 06:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its YOUR wedding, YOU choose who will attend to you and be maid of honour. Tell her the position is no longer available!
2007-11-12 06:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say, fire the *beep*'s *beep*. :P
Seriously, if she's being rude to you, you should find someone else to be maid of honor. I don't really understand why you accepted her as such in the first place, but you have a right to change your mind, so go for it.
2007-11-12 07:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is in charge here? You or her. Tell her to hit the pavement and don't invite her to the wedding!
And then look for a new job...you don't need that kind of hassle.
2007-11-12 15:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋