A friend's girlfriend (who's in law school right now) dumped him because she didn't have enough time to date. Unfortunately, this left him broken-hearted. I don't know. It seems like not having time is a stupid reason to break up with someone, especially since this woman still has time to hang out with friends, etc. How hard is it to go on a date one day a month, or whatever. Do you think she sincerely just didn't have enough time, or that she just needed an excuse to break up?
My friend, of course, makes excuses for her, like that she felt bad about not having enough time for him, etc., but I think she's just a heartless brat! (I'm a little upset at her, can you tell?)
2007-11-12 06:35:01 · 8 answers · asked by bocca_bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she doesn't believe the relationship is working, or can work, she's justified in ending it. Whether you agree with her evaluation isn't the point, it's her relationship to evaluate.
Also keep in mind there may be things you don't know about the relationship and its end. Even the closest friends keep some details private.
2007-11-12 06:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by DW 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends whether you're the break-er or the break-ee. Validity is in the eye of the beholder. On the other hand, when you want to do something, any excuse will do. Well, when you get thrown off the horse, just get out your fishing rod and go looking for some of the other fish in the sea.
2007-11-12 06:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by John R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kind of sounds like you have some feelings for your friend, since you're being a little defensive and mad at his ex.
But to answer your question, no I dont think that's a valid excuse. If she really wanted to be with him and loved him, she would have stuck with it. She might have felt bad she didnt pay enough attention to him/give him enough of her time, but if she REALLY wanted to, she could have stayed with him.
2007-11-12 06:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Melonball 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if it was only a casual relationship then, yes, it's a valid reason.
Unfortunately your friend seems to have felt more strongly about her than she did about him. This is not her fault, nor is it his fault. They just felt differently about each other and the relationship meant something different to each of them.
It's unfortunate, but not uncommon. Sorry.
2007-11-12 06:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by munchkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. She found another.
2. She truly needs the time for school.
3. Your friend demands more attention (smothering)
4. Last but not they just didn't click and she opt for this excuse.
2007-11-12 06:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by TOM P 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she had time, just not to give to him. Maybe she tired of being in a relationship, and wanted more time to focus on school and spend with friends.
2007-11-12 06:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about someone and see yourself with a future with them, you will make a concerted effort to remain in a relationship with them. Yes, she may have cared for him and not have time to devote to the relationship, but that was because she didn't want to. Sorry to say, she just wasn't that into him.
Tell your friend to cheer up, their tons of other girls out there. : )
2007-11-12 06:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, because eventually he will want attention and she will not be able to provide it. so he is going to look else where
2007-11-12 06:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by The Woman of God , I shall be! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋