is it wrong to put hot sauce in my two year olds mouth for saying the f*** word ?

Question

and dont act like omg where could he have heard this we live in america for gods sakes i just want my child to know right from wrong and what he is doing is he knows hes not supposed to to do ive tried everything rephrasing explaining warning timeouts spanking taking toys telling him its a bad word instead of criticizing can sombody give me some advice please.....

Answer 1

If you do you should be reported to the police! Where did he learn it from if not from those he is associated with. Shame on you. He doesn't have any idea it's a wrong word and has probably forgotten he said it but you told him and now you will probably hear it more and more often.

Answer 2

At two years old the child has no idea what the word means. I don't know if putting hot sauce on its tongue for doing something it had no way to know was wrong will work, but sometimes you have to punish kids for things they do which are inappropriate even if they don't realize it's wrong.

You're also making the word "taboo" which makes it more like forbidden fruit. It's up to you and maybe there isn't a better way to solve the problem - and you probably have to do something, you can't have little kids talking like that if there's something important happening - but I don't like it. I'm not saying you were wrong, I just don't like the solution but I'll be damned if I can figure out what you could have done instead. At least you didn't wash his mouth out with soap, now THAT would be barbaric.

Answer 3

Yes. It's a way of inflicting pain - I think even worse than spanking. Where on Earth did a toddler hear that word? I say punish the one who said it and exposed such little ears to such a filthy word. Take some parenting classes so you can learn both appropriate forms of discipline and why it's important not to use trashy language around an impressionable toddler.
*Edit* You're using the excuse that you live in America for your baby swearing?! I don't know whether to laugh or be completely disgusted. Most American toddlers who have decent parents don't swear. My three - year - old doesn't swear, and isn't exposed to such filth. Your son obviously hears it from people he's around regularly. Clean up your language and stop trying to punish him - he doesn't know he's doing anything wrong. Tell him he shouldn't say it because it's a bad word, but that's it. Really, SHAME ON YOU!

Answer 4

Hot sauce, hmmm...depends upon who you ask.

I would say yes. That causes a great deal of anguish depending on the type. A 2 year old doesn't understand why they are being punished for saying something like that. Usually they are just mimicing what they hear. Scolding the child should suffice to discourage them from using the word. If you make light of it, or a joke out of it the child is going to think that it's funny and continue to use the word.

However, once the child is older and able to understand they shouldn't say the word, around 5-6. You could use something that tastes aweful but won't cause any long term harm. The old soap on the tounge is the more common and accepted method.

Answer 5

Ignore it for now. If he gets a reaction out of you when he says it. He'll keep saying it.

I know it's a shock to hear that out of a two year old mouth, but he had to hear it somewhere. Eliminate all possible scorsese of this word. If you have friends that say it or you say it. Everyone needs to stop. Don't listen to music with this word in it either. Or television shows. You may think he is not paying attention but he is. Kids hear everything.

If you laugh at it, even in your shock and horror he will think he is entertaining. Resist all impulses to laugh.

Eventually if he gets no reaction out of you when he says it he will quit and move of to something else.

Or try replacing the word. Tell him that the word should be "shucks" and he is saying it wrong. Then use that word often thoughout the day and he will pick up on it.

And yes putting hot sause in him mouth is wrong.

Answer 6

No not at all... Yes they may have heard it from someone they know but they are still old enough to know it is not nice to say.

That is the problem with kids these days parents are to afraid to punish their kids, I say many of these kids need a taste of hot sauce, or just a good ole' spanking, and maybe they will turn out to be good respectful teenagers. Start installing good morals into our youth at an early age. They are the future.

Answer 7

My two year old step son has been saying this word too. And for those who think it always comes from the parents, it's not true. My stepson picked it up from daycare. My husband and I NEVER talk like that. We've tried everything from time outs, explaining it's bad, taking toys, etc. and nothing has worked for us either. And for those who think 2 years old is too young to understand - they do understand it's bad. He'll say it quietly and then when we ask him to repeat what he just said, he'll say something else and finally admit to what he said. His grandma insisted we try soap as it worked for his dad when he was little. So my question is, what is the difference between using soap or hot sauce? Both are going to taste bad and hot sauce doesn't have nasty chemicals in it!

Answer 8

I see no difference between hot sauce and spanking.

When done properly, both can be an appropriate form of punishment, and both can be abusive.

But before deciding if corpial punishment is appropraite, I too would like to know where the two year old learned to say the word. For a child so young, it might be more appropriate to find (and perhaps punish) the source. If the source is an older sibbling, then I would say the hot sauce in the sibblings mouth would be more appropriate. If the source is a daycare situation, you need to learn more about this daycare. If you are the source (either in your own language or what you allow to play on TV and such) well then you are the one that deserves the hot sauce... say a whole bottle for dinner tonight?

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BTW: for those that suggest hot sauce is too strong for a babies digestive system, I seem to recall reading on one of the popular parenting magazines that there is nothing wrong with feeding a baby spicy food if that is what they like.

Answer 9

Children learn what they live. If you stopped saying it, maybe your two year old would too? At age two, they don't know the "F" word as being an inappropriate word, but you do. Clean up your own language for your child's sake. By the way, this is a very dumb question and is child abuse!!

Answer 10

absolutely. someone shoould call the childrens aid society to report you. put it in your own mouth and try it. without having anything to drink and see if it feels good. correct the child orally. try a time out dpending on the age. if they are 2for two minutes , 3 for 3 minutes and so on. the child is not allowed to play or talk for that time. if they do not undestand the word then they cant learn not to say it. tell the child no each and every time it is said. repeatedly and give an unhappy look. if they are too young for time outs.

michelle 33 yrs old.

Answer 11

That is wrong. I can't even eat a drip of hot sauce without my mouth being in pain for an hour.
Obviously your child learned the word from somewhere so maybe try changing your language or don't have your friends over if they are going to use such bad language infront of your child.
Explain to your child that it's a bad word and tell him that "we don't say that".