Why do they always blame parents?

Question

I was watching Court TV the other day, the convicts or criminals always will have a excuse that related to the parents.
Even celebrities like Lindsy Lohan, said she was emotionally neglected by her father. Do you find that despicable?

Answer 1

Well, there is truth on both sides of the issue. Parents have a lot of influence on how their children turn out. On the other hand, as long as an adult blames his/her problems on their parents or anyone else, they will never improve their condition.

I really like the teachings of the Transactional Analysis school of psychology. What they say is that what causes a persons problems in the present is the decisions they made earlier in their life.

There is no BLAME associated with those decisions as how can you blame a 6 y/o child for making any decisions. Also, maybe the child made the best decision to survive the circumstances that they were in.

This does not absolve the parents for what they did. If the parents put their child's head in a vice every Sunday, they bear the responsibility for that. If the child DECIDED to hide in the closet every Sunday to escape that, no one can blame him/her.

In the present, it is understandable why this child who is now 30 y/o and lives on their own has a tendency to hide in the closet every Sunday. The problem is that he/she no longer needs to do that and it causes problems in that person's life.

Personally, I think that that is how things really work. The beauty of it is that a person has to take responsibility (but without blame) for their actions and at the same time not blame their parents (although the parents are responsible for their behavior of putting their kids head in a vice).

The other great thing about this, is that since my problems are caused by how I decided to do things in the past, I can decide to change how I do things in the present so that my life goes better. Maybe I can come out of the closet on Sundays and spend time with my wife and kids -:)

Answer 2

Well the fact is many parents in today's world no longer stay home and or teach their children anything about this world and life. I think many may just use that as an excuse, but there is some truth to some of their claims. It would be very disrespectful to say that about ones parents if it were not true. I think the real issue is that know one wants to take responsibilities for their actions. Everyone seems like they want to blame someone else. So when they get caught they blame mommy and daddy for not showing them enough love, or for them showing them to much love. Either way most of them say it because they just want to put the blame for their actions on someone else.

Answer 3

It's generally the parents' fault for failing to raise their children appropriately. The saddest part is that when they're in school, all the problems are blamed on the teachers instead of the parents, so they are not fixed because teachers don't have that kind of power. This makes me sick. Beyond childhood though, adults must be responsible for their own behavior.

Answer 4

To bluntly answer your question, NO it truly is no longer honest to continually blame mom and dad while toddlers are lead off course. the government has a large place on the media and censorship (they are greater approximately money than what appropriateness), they positioned the accountability on the mummy and dad to visual show unit. Which if unmonitored cn notably effect a toddler's recommendations. the government additionally performs a place in how mom and dad can and can't discipline their toddlers. toddlers have alot of leverage over their lives. So while toddlers finally end up on drugs, a criminal offense spree, uneducated or whathaveyou... only comprehend that your tax money from the government are positioned back interior the development greater jails, rehabs, welfare, and re-coaching adults, extremely than coverage differences to probably ward off a number of those issues from ensue.

Answer 5

sometimes children can turn out a little defective because of there household. some children tend to follow in there parents footsteps. i mean we all have a mind of our own. we can choose what we want out of our lives but also we still will have an effect on our parents and how they raised us. lindsy ,ohan may feel like she needs attention because her father neglected her as a child and she also can b using it as an excuse so she can get that comfprt she didnt get as a child

Answer 6

I think the majority of people just look for an excuse or someone to blame for their actions/behavior.

My sister is 24 years old and still blames my parents for her actions and behaviors when my parents never did anything wrong and raised her very well. It's sickening.

Answer 7

granted the take this to the extreme, but alot of children issues do come from inside the home. working in a school enviroment, you definitly notice the children with parent involvement, no involvement, or too much involvement. when parents can take responsibility for themselves, how can they teach their children. in the long run, its all learned behavior, and some have the choice to try to change, and some choose not too, but then you need support somewhere.

Answer 8

I find that there are extreme emotional attachments to childhood experiences. I also think that there are people who say that everything they do is because of their childhood just as an excuse.

I do feel some things are attached but it shouldnt be the reason for all of one person's mistakes in life.

Answer 9

Yes thats wrong. At a certain age a person is responsible for their own actions.
Age might vary @ 16, I was on my own an responsible for my actions.

Answer 10

Nope, cuz its always the parents fault.....

What I find despicable is that at the Oscars, they never give full credit to the parents, they thank their friends and people they have never met, but never say they owe their entire existence to their parents and without them they would be..... on court tv!