I am so in love with my boyfriend, and I knwo he loves me, I have never dounted that in our relationship. Hes my best friend and my boyfriend.
My delema is that I just wnat him to do something special.We have kind of fell into a routne thing. I want him to just plan out a day and surprise me. Take the time out to plan something taht shows me how much he loves me. He tells me he loves me everyday and every chance he gets. I know he does. Hes one of those people that wouldnt say something if he didnt mean it at all.
Hes a very oblivious man and would never guess I felt this way unless I told him...thing is he thinks this stuff is dumb to feel. And then if I told him that i felt like this, it would be more me telling him to do it....omg help....i dont wana be needy but i want him to surprise me....HELP!
2007-11-12 05:41:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he will probably never do it. I have been with my boyfriend 2 years and he doesn't do anything like that anymore either. He just feels that I should know that he loves me and shouldn't need gifts or special days to feel special. I understand exactly what you mean though, men just don't think that way. My only suggestion would be to maybe tell one of his friends or his siblings to suggest something? But from my experience, this is a lost cause. Just be happy you have a faithful boyfriend who loves you.
2007-11-12 05:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are oblivious to these kind of feelings. He is comfortable with you, and knows that you know he loves you.
How about doing something special for him? Maybe tickets to see his favorite sports team, or just little notes left out for him. Try doing things to make him feel special and see if he gets the hint.
If not (which is probably the case), have a talk with him. Tell him you feel the two of you have gotten into a routine and want to make sure he knows just how special and important he is to you. Tell him you don't want to fall into that rut that ends most couples because you take each other for granted and stop doing things that are special for each other. If he really thinks it is dumb to feel that you want to keep your relationship strong by doing special things for you, then he may not be he guy for you in the long run. You want romance, and if he refuses to provide it, then you will never be truly happy with him.
2007-11-12 05:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Meghan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try to send it through the grapevine - have a friend tell a friend, etc but thats certainly not guaranteed
a better idea would be to plan a surprise yourself. boys are stupid about stuff like this and youll have to create your own romance. do it a few times and maybe eventually he will get into the spirit, but dont count on it.
remember, dont do something nice just because you expect something in return. just do it because you want to spend a nice time with him.
2007-11-12 05:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by anothernickname 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll have to tell him..because right now, you're not saying it and he probably thinks you're really happy with how things are. Why don't you start the conversation by asking him what he thinks an ideal treat/special occasion with you would be, and then tell him your thoughts in return..keep it casual but be honest and open and maybe it'll give him food for thought in the future. Good luck:)
2007-11-12 05:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lucie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u have like an anniversary coming up or something???/ u know wat, i think mayb u should plan a picnic instead of him.. pack a lot of snacks and food and surprise him.. i know, u want to b surprised bt u should try it first..see if he actually feels like that kind of stupid is..make a date for this stuff..first, u do it, then next he can do it.. it can b a new ritual..i know it sounds stupid, bt wouldn't it b nice, it u could make urself and the guy u luv happy at the same time!!!
2007-11-12 05:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, if he's so oblivious give him a hand, maybe he has no clue about what makes you feel like the one and only
2007-11-12 05:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by huh? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him direct, you want to be surprised and want something special done. Sometimes leading by example works too. Have you done it for him?
2007-11-12 05:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with him the you are bored with the relationship! Light a fire under his butt and get him going! He likely does not think your relationship has a problem. Its up to you to let him know that there is one :)
2007-11-12 05:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to do do something special for him to make him see what your trying to show him you want.... so surprise him instead, if you put your imagination into it you both will get the warm feelings you want, why make it just about one of you, make it about the both of you.
2007-11-12 06:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by sharon g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I agree with the other poster, he's not a mind reader, you're going to have to find a way to suggest it to him.
2007-11-12 06:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by Paul R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋