Ok my ex dumped me 5 months ago and she got a new b/f not even 2 weeks later. We still talked for the 1st 10 days then i cut communication with her and the beginning of this week she starts sending me text msg that she wants to talk and I quote " about what happened to us" and I said not till Sunday, I figured if she got out what she needed to get out she would leave me alone. So we we're talking and I asked her if she was happy and she said that she thought she was but now doesn’t know. She also said that her mom asked her a few weeks ago that if she wasn’t in a relationship, if she would date me again ( she told me yesterday). She didn’t answer but said that I probably wouldn't go back out with HER. Then 2day while I’m at work she sent me a few txt messages
1st- hey, so what do u think about everything?..
Then I told her I didn’t know and asked her if her current b/f knew about this,
And she said
2nd - yes.. I told him all of it last night and that I didn’t know what to do about it, where do u stand with it all? What do u want and what do u want me to do?
And I told her that she needed to figure out what she wants
The she said what do u (me) want?
I said I don’t know and haven’t heard from her since.
I’m very confused and would like your opinions/ comments on this situation.. thanks
2007-11-12 05:39:31 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since she started pursuing you before breaking off with the other bf, the best thing you can do is never get back with her again. You are better off with out her!
2007-11-12 05:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tim C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she left you once she'll do it again. Obviously she was looking while you two were still together if she materialized with a boyfriend two weeks after your breakup. Things didn't work out like she thought they would with the current boyfriend so she needs you back-- that is until the next guy comes along. She sounds like a co-dependent person who just needs a relationship to feel balanced in life. Don't be that security. Get on with your life and don't look back. You can do better!
2007-11-12 05:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by caligirl_SC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is she managing to keep the two of you on the line??
If she's doing this now, wouldn't it be possible for her to do it again?
Ask your self if you see yourselves together in the long run. Will you be happy with her, or always worrying about whether she's playing the same game again. Because that's all this is, a game.
I know everyone else is saying go for it, but while you go for it you could be missing the opportunity of being with someone who truly cares about you, and not the games.
2007-11-12 05:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her back, take her back, if not, not.
On the other hand, if you don't want her back and you want to be really nasty, invite her over for sex, have sex with her - in fact, you might have really great sex with her, see my examples below - then, now that she's seen the sort of fantastic things you can do to her, you tell her that was a revenge (insert four-letter word for having sex here because yahoo will delete the obscenity) and you want nothing to do with her. If you want to be REALLY nasty, you tell her this while you're still inside of her!
I think I'm a little punch drunk from being up all night, this is getting to be way too much fun.
2007-11-12 05:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Paul R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not too sure about this girl. She's fast. Sounds like a man eater. Well if you got feelings for her and if you think that you and her can possibly have a future together then go for it. But don't pour yourself out to her. If you wanna take the risk go for it but try not to fall for her to muck so when she does break up with u again u won't hurt as much.
2007-11-12 05:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow! she was fast to dump you, you were doing the right thing by cutting communication between you and her.. this is totally up to you wheather you want to take her back or let her go completely. but she sure didn;t take her time in finding someone esle... so was she talking to this guy while she was dating you. because if you get back with her, it;s probably only a matter of time before she does it again, meets another guy and dumps you again! i hope she doesn't think that you are a yo-yo and playing with your emotions!! because that is not cool!! don't go back with her just because your comfortable with her, you can find someone else who will treat you better and not be playing with your emotions! yah the heatache hurts like hell but you can and will get over it! i know from experience! it could take you 1 month or 1 year, it just depends on the kind of person you are! Hey! you have a life and you should live it!!! *life is what you make it*
2007-11-12 05:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is not sure what she wants. you need to sit and talk and try to find out why she dumped you before you decide to give her another chance to do it again and even then just go out a few time as just friends to see how it goes if you decide to try again. It may be that she is trying to gain self esteem by what others think of her and needs to raise her self esteem herself rather than to depend upon others for that.
I will give you a web site for that you can perhaps get her to visit, or the two of you can look at together. I t sounds like her mother thinks it a good idea that the two of you date so maybe you are in a position to help her find herself and then have a great relationship. Just take it slow until you ar sure that she is willing to commit to you a little more this time.
2007-11-12 05:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe she isn't as happy as she thought she would be and maybe wants you back. But, if you take her back, she might just leave again. I think you were right when you told her that she needed to figure out what she wants. The last thing you need is for someone who's clueless to mess with your life again. But if she comes back, has gotten rid of the boyfriend, and really seems to have her head on straight, then maybe if you still love her, you should give it a chance. The condition is that she is clear about what she wants, not hoping to use you as a fall-back boyfriend.
2007-11-12 05:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She's confused and playing games. Tell her to stay with her current boyfriend. Move on and find someone that isn't so indecisive.
2007-11-12 05:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you're going through this difficult and confusing time. She definitely doesn't know what she wants. If you take her back, she might leave you again after a while. She needs to grow up.
2007-11-12 05:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lola 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love is a risk. You will always face the possibility of heartache. If you don't... well, you'll never experience love!
2007-11-12 05:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by Johnny Mack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋