I just asked this question to everyone but it mainly seems to be Christians answering it so now I"m narrowing it down.
I've never had romantic feelings for a CHristian before, I always assumed it just wouldn't work out. Now I do have those types of feelings, but am still not sure if it could work in the end. What do you think?
2007-11-12 05:22:19 · 47 answers · asked by Embarassed R&S Regular 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My girlfriend is a Christian, and it's pretty common knowledge we've had problems, but I can't lay them all at the feet of religious differences.
That having been said, you are putting the horse before the cart. If you are having anxieties over religious differences of a potential relationship with someone that you haven't even been able to admit your love to, you are building a "fanstasy" relationship before a real one has even begun.
To tell the truth, at this point your constant vacillation--in a very public manner--would not in the slightest be viewed as attractive by most women. This is getting tiresome to all of us, and we aren't even the targets of your affection--imagine how it will be for her.
I imagine that when--if--you reveal yourself to her, she will hand you back a rather disappointing response.
The first question was cute and sweet. This dragging it out is monotonously boring and ruining your chances. You aren't acting like an interested prospect as much as you are acting like a creepy cyberstalker.
Creepy isn't what most women are going for these days.
2007-11-12 05:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Jack B, goodbye, Yahoo! 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
None, if I could find a nice, non-judgmental Christian I would have no problem in entering a relationship, unfortunately, because of the teachings they follow, this is not likely to happen. I don't see how anyone could accept the concept of Hell in the perspective that most Christians do, as religion is and always has been based on little more than culture, this added to the fact that the vast majority of Christians act nothing like those teachings which actually do point to moral traits, I just don't see it happening for me..
2007-11-12 05:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
samandhis,
You don't know me! There is nothing in the Bible about having a Beer or smoking a Cigar being sins!
And I LOVE football, sometimes even watch in my underwear! The old stereo-types that all Christians are boring are way off base!
You might want to look at the Catholic Church!
BTW: I was a Protestant and married a Catholic Girl, it worked great and I am now Catholic also, just because of her example, not her pushing me. Like anything, before marriage (and during) you will need 3 things, Communication, communication, and more communication.
Good Luck!
2007-11-12 05:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it is the degree of religion they are. Depending on how open minded they are and if they realize you don't need saving. I think you will fight about it for which there is no impasse. How close they are to family and how religious the family is will also affect that too. There is no winner. I wish you well though, my hubby is an atheist and I was raised Christian but we met a time in my life where I questioned things and I was swayed dramatically by what I choose to believe are facts. I don't consider myself a Christian anymore.
2007-11-12 05:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by bigsky74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what type of Christian you want to date. Is it a fundie or a mainline Protestant? A Catholic or an Eastern Orthodox? Do they accept science? How do your views compare on social issues?
I can't give a blanket statement for this, but there is nothing inherently bad about dating a Christian as an atheist. It all depends upon the two people involved.
2007-11-12 05:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
it could work, religions shouldnt be the ultimate relationship decider, but from experience, if u choose the wrong kind of Christian, they may force their religion too much onto you and tell you that you will go to hell for being an atheist and such. It's a pain in the *** hearing that stuff all the time and it wouldn't make a healthy relationship, but it really depends on the Christian...
2007-11-12 05:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Noreen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the person is a believing Christian and not just a "social" Christian, then you have this risk:
None if you just date them.
Big if you marry them.
You risk spending a lifetime with someone who believes differently with you on one of the most important issues in life. You will never escape Jesus. He will always be there. You are much more likely to end up a Christian than they are an atheist.
2007-11-12 05:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should find out what her beliefs are and go from there. People here are assuming that this person is some sort of Bible thumping maniac. It's possible that there won't be much that comes up that is a problem. Sitting in your undies watching the game, isn't something that is against God. Find out what her beliefs are and see if it's going to be something you can live with.
2007-11-12 05:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by DP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt have any problem, Ideas of faith shouldn't get in the way of romance. A true Christian preaches acceptance which includes others peoples religious beliefs or lack of one. And for the most part, atheist dont attack Christians for there beliefs either. I wouldn't have any problem, why are you offering to be the Christian?
2007-11-12 05:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Lennon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of the scriptural advice I have seen is that Believers should not marry non-believers. It can cause a lot of problems for her down the road. Women have it in-born to believe that their love can change a man...then there is a joke that the only way you can change a man is if he in diapers. It is God that changes the heart and the best she can do is be a good example to you and let you see what you are missing. A walk with God gives you peace, joy and love no matter what trials you are facing. I pray that you will make a good choice if you are concerned at all for her welfare. Mmm
2007-11-12 07:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋