My boyfriends birthday was a few months ago and I went ALL OUT! I took him to see his favorite band, made him cake, bought all this stuff for his car, and even wore sexy new lingerie! My birthday is this week and he has hardly even acknowledged it. I can tell he isn't going to suprise me because whenever i mention it he gets really awkward and says things like "umm well i guess ill figure something out..." I don't care if he any spends money... but SOMETHING would be nice!
Maybe it sounds horrible and materialistic, but is it wrong for me to be a little hurt? I think if you love someone you should find SOME way to acknowledge their birthday.
2007-11-12 05:15:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just wanted to clarify that me going all out on his birthday had nothing to do with me wanting something in return. We've been together for a year and I love him to death... I wanted more than anything to make his day special. All I wanted in return was acknowledgement... a card and a kiss is fine by me.
2007-11-12 05:29:34 · update #1
i think you should tell one of your friends who is also friends with him to tell him it's your birthday
2007-11-12 05:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha! I know how you feel. I just went through this- my birthday was Nov 10, and the man in my life never even mentioned a word of it. I never said a word either. Oh, but I did tell him the date before it happened.
I'm not upset. Many women experience this.
My sister's fiance never acknowledges her birthday. Oh, yea, he says "happy birthday" but there's no card, nothing. So, this year- she said forget it and did not do a thing for his birthday. He never even noticed.
I say, don't let it ruin your day.
Be happy for the people in your life who DO acknowledge your birthday. That's what I did. And I had a wonderful birthday.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!
2007-11-12 05:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's really awkward because he has something planned, and you keep asking him about it.
It's not your birthday TODAY, so don't stress about it TODAY. Wait until the actual day. If the entire 24 hours passes without him doing anything (and he had the opportunity - it does not count if something comes up and he can't see you that day), you need to reassess the whole situation. But stop nagging him; if someone kept reminding me about their birthday, I would be less inclined to even acknowledge it because I could tell they're fishing for something.
2007-11-12 05:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-24 02:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are different. Maybe birthdays weren't a big deal in his family. You almost sound like you went 'all out' for his birthday, EXPECTING somethin in return.
2007-11-12 05:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be hurt if you wish to be hurt. I don't know about you but in my own experience, I do nice things for people because I want them to enjoy them; not to obligate them to do the same for me. You are looking pretty bad here.
He will do what he will do. Don't be disappointed if it is less than you expect. And especially don't be disappointed before it even happens!
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2007-11-12 05:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that he has something planned but doesnt want you to know what. if your b-day comes around and he has done nothing, dont rub in his face all that you done for his birthday but do express how empty and unwanted that made you feel that you got nothing.
2007-11-12 05:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is going to do something for u and he does not want u to know it just want untell the day of ur birthday then if nothing then it is fine to say something i know i would but at lest give him a chance
2007-11-12 05:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Amber M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should post this question after your birthday. Maybe he will surprise you, I would be patient and see what happens if nothing go OFF>
2007-11-12 05:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to through you off so you WILL be surprised.
Maybe he isn't as creative and doesn't want to just copy you and seem unoriginal.
Jacob W said what I was thinking!
2007-11-12 05:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ you.he could be pretending that he's not doing nothing but,then get you by surprise .that's what me men did.he told me things like he had to go somewhere w/ his friend and it was all lies he was planing a party.so don't get yourself worked up on.on the other hand if he don't then you have all right to Be upset.
2007-11-12 05:25:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋