He is going away to Iraq. What do I do?

Question

This Guy Kaleb is like my boyfriend but not really. He is getting shipped off to San Deigo and then to Iraq. He is leaving June 2, two months after my Dad. But I don't know what to do I feel so safe around him and then when he leaves I am scared that he will come back and not love me the way he loves me any more. What do I do I'm So scared that he will forget about me.

Answer 1

For anyone who has to work away from home, not just soldiers, knowing that they have loved ones back home is one of the things that keeps them going, knowing that their work is not in vain.

Answer 2

It is hard when someone is to go off to war. There are alot of fears and questions for those going and the ones they leave here. First remember he has alot on his mind right now so realtionship issues are going to take a back burner to other things. You still have some time to spend with him so be with him when you can and let him know how you feel about him but without being too pushy on the issue. This is not a time to ask for a definition of your relationship. Make sure he has your address and such and keep in contact by email. When my ex was over in Iraq I made sure that in addition to the emails and IM's we shared that I also sent him a good ol fashioned letter. I sent him little cards to say thinking about you because some days when they get those it can turn their whole day around. Send lots of goodies and let him know you are supporting him and what he is doing and keep your messages positive. And pictures...send pictures of not only you but family and friends too. He will appreciate it all no matter what your "status" is with him. When he returns home you will be surprised how much your support will have an effect on him. And believe me he will not forget you. Good luck I hope it works out!

Answer 3

Deployment is never easy, especially to a war zone. Everyone changes over time and he will change and of course grow up. Kaleb will see things that will stay with him his entire life. My recommendation is for you to make sure you get his FPO/APO address and write him letters. Just writing about your daily life, nothing that would burden him. Try and stay up beat. Also when you get his address you can sent a care package. At the post office for around 8 bucks you can get a box and send it off flat rate. The men appreciate all non-perishable food items.

You can always use another friend, and being a supportive friend during this stressful time surely will be appreciated. For your own well being, I also recommend not watching any news TV shows or reading the papers. Stay away from negative people and try and take good care of yourself. Concentrate on your school, or sign up for a course at your community college. Exercise and eat well.

Good luck and know that Kaleb is supported by many people in his country and I remain proud of every member of the military. There can not be bravery without fear.

Answer 4

Sweetie i'm guessing he's a marine and if this is his first tour everyone comes back different. Its a long hard process but if he is dedicated to you and you both keep in touch on a regular basis and make it a relationship then I'm sure you're the only thing he'll be thinking about while he's there. So hold on for him, it will mean the world to him.

By the way for all of you ladies with loved ones in the military stop posting when he's leaving specifically. Do it for his safety, believe it or not there is always someone watching reading and listening, "they" are not as dumb or unschooled as we think.

Answer 5

When you love someone and the love is returned back from that someone you will have no problem with them loving you the sameway as when they left. Sometimes the love even grows stronger , Just remember to keep praying for him to stay safe and for Gods angels to protect him while he is away and to make it back safe. Try to write him as much as posible and send him gift packs. It really means alot to them while they are away so far ,and they are in danger so you have to hellp them remember how much they are loved and give them hope and let them know that he has someone back home that loves him so much. He is probaly wondering the same thing you are about if you are going to feel the same way about him when he comes back,and is scared also . I hope I have been some help to you. I will pray for the both of you.

Answer 6

First you need to establish if he wants to date you, if he does date him and see how he responds to you in letters and emails, dont let him leave without filling him in on how you feel, because if he doesnt know you are serious he may think it is okay to find someone eles, also if he is not serious or doesnt want to be You should not wait around for him b/c it is better to know where you stand in a relationship and if it is actually to the point of he wants to be your actual boyfriend then he cares and you should give him a chance, If not ditch him find someone eles.

Answer 7

Going off to somewhere like Iraq, a guy is helped by the thought a good woman is waiting for him to return, he's not going to forget her/you.

Answer 8

Just know that he is fixing to go through hell and when he returns home he will need support and friends, he will also be a very changed person. As to whether or not how he will feel about you, there is no way you can know that until he returns.

Answer 9

Its not like hes leaving you for another woman in Iraq. He'll be thinking of you after the first day.

Answer 10

like my boyfriend but not really.


ok.. well im sure he wont forget you.. its not easy to forget people. Why not get his email or his mailing address so you can write him a letter. Troops LOVE getting postage from back home- that is the best advice I can give you. Support the troops! they got a serious mission out there.