ok so i have this close friend and she is supposed to get married and she has already picked out her bridesmaid dresses and we have all paid for them (im a bridesmaid).....so today she decides she doesnt like the ones she picked out in the first place and she wants to get different ones. she will not refund our money for the first choice of dresses because they are nonrefundable by the store, yet she wants us to pay for these also now. is it just me or is this her being inconciderate? and frivolous with money? and what do i say to her??
2007-11-12 05:09:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd tell her that you've paid for these dresses and the time to change her mind was before you paid for them and were not eligible for a refund.
OR to get another bridesmaid willing to pay for more than 1 dress.
That is just so Bridezilla!
2007-11-12 05:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think ALL of the bridesmaids need to stand together and tell her that if the store will not exchange them, then they simply cannot buy a second dress. These dresses are expensive enough as it is. Is she insane?
2007-11-12 05:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not even for my sister. no way. explain to her that you will wear the dress as a bridesmaid, or a guest - but the dress you bought is the dress you will wear.
The other bridesmaid's might be willing to buy another- that isn't your problem. I think she is being a total brat, but have you handle it means everything.
2007-11-12 05:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by brutally honest 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if it was me, and she was my good friend (obviously she is because you are in her wedding) I would just sit down with her and say listen this isnt right you can ask us to do this, we dont have the money, tell her the dresses are fine and it will all turn out good, and tell her that she should make sure she looks the best anyway. Make her understand say anything, if it bothers you this much you will make her see your point, or tell her to buy the dresses for you guys since you all bought the ones she wanted first, its only right. But ya good luck with it.
2007-11-12 05:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nathan&Aubries Mommy 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is her being inconsiderate. Tell her nicely that you're only paying for ONE dress. If the one you already paid for isn't good enough, tell her you are sorry but she needs to find another sucker... errr, bridesmaid, to replace you - as you can't afford buying several dresses.
2007-11-12 05:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd say "If you want me to be a bridesmaid, you'll have to let me wear the dress I have already paid for. I am not made of money."
Yes, she is being inconsiderate. Tell her so.
2007-11-12 05:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit her down and let her know that you are not made of money and can not sit and buy two dresses and not be refunded for the first. She is way out of line.
2007-11-12 05:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is extremely inconsiderate. You must let this friend know you cannot keep affording for her to change her mind. If that's the case, I would tell her you can't afford to be her bridesmaid.
2007-11-12 05:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG ... i cant believe she expects you to go out and buy a whole other dress, with out being compensated for the other one?? How rude.. I would tell her straight up, if you want us to wear this new dress then you are going to have to pay for it.. That is just bull ****!
2007-11-12 05:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes that is totally inconsiderate and tell her ppl arent made of money these days and if she want you to get a diff dress then she can pay for it
2007-11-13 05:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋