My hubby and I are considering join the military together haven't decided on the branch yet. However, I have a masters degree in healthcare and when I spoke to the officer recruiters they stated I can go in as an officer. Well hubby on the other hand has an associate's and he has to go in enlisted. Hubby doesn't want to wait until he gets his degree to go in. With the Fratenization policies, etc. Can we go in the military and be married, live together,etc? Is this accepted in the military?
2007-11-12 04:36:38 · 6 answers · asked by step827 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
yes. you can establish a pre existing relationship. You however, would NOT be allowed to be stationed within the same chain of command.
2007-11-12 06:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can. Any enlist can marry another enlisted, and any officer can marry another officer. The tricky part is officers and enlisted marrying. They are aloud to, but it is illegal to date. So if they do it they need to hide their relationship until after they are married. Once they are married the officer can start looking for another job, he/she will never be promoted again and will be forced out because of it.
2016-04-03 09:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting situation, can't remember this ever happening in my 22 years on active duty.
But I would imagine there would be no problem with it, I am certain you could not be assigned to the same command, And may have to be a bit discrete at times.
What I mean by that would be any Public Display of Affection while in uniform. (PDA)
Your best bet would be to check again with the recruiters and lay it out for them, Have them do the research into the regulations
And best of luck to both of you.
2007-11-12 04:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by SFC_Ollie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can go in the military together but there will be some hardships and limitations. First of all chances are you will be assigned to a hospital or hospital unit depending on your healthcare degree. You will go to an officer training course depdending on what your job will be. He will go to basic training from 8 to 16 weeks depending on the Branch of Service or based on the job he will be doing. The first year or so you may or may not be together because of training requirements. Also, you can be deployed overseas for a year or more without him or him without you. Now if you are in a medical unit and he signs up for a medical job then chances are you will find yourself together. If he goes in under other jobs he may not. The military tries to keep the spoused together as best they can and they do a fairly good job of this, but again they will tell you mission comes first. Do not let a recuiter tell you he guarantees that you will always be together. Its not withing his power to do this. The franternization policies are not as harsh and limiting as you would think. There are many officers married to enlisted folk. The rules are fairly simple. You just can not be in each others "chain of command" and/or unit. Nor can you pressure or ask favors on his behalf because of your rank. You can not intercede in anyway with things having to do with his career or job. Example should you ask a subordinate who is in direct charge or in you husbands chain of command how he is doing that can me misconstrude as undue "influance". You will explained the rules in detail and they are easy to follow. Its a tough life and if you two are not solid in your commitment to each other then trouble lays ahead.
Officers have a lot of social functions they are required to attend. Most often the spoused are required and encouraged to attend. Your husband will have to keep in mind that he may not be socialy accepted by some because he is enlisted, but he will be accepted as a spouse. Don't get your feeling hurt, this is tradition and nothing is meant by it. In all of this you must keep in mind that military traditions are there for a reason. I commanded an Infantry Company as well as a few other assignments, and it was lonely as an officer in charge. Officers have to make deciesions they do not like keeping in mind that sometimes there deciesion result in the death of soldiers. In some cases they know this going in. Any sort of favoritism of any sort is devestating to the morale of a unit.
Now, the best services I have found for keeping spoused together in this order is. Airforce, Army, Navy (Marines are part of the Navy and not their own Branch of Service). The Army has Branches within known as Infantry, Cavalry, Armor, Corp of Engineers, Medical Corp, Medical Service Corp, Quarter Master Corp. Adjutant General Corp, Aviation Branch and so forth. Should you go in the Army you will probably find yourself in the Medical Corp or the Medical Service Corp.
I know this is a long answer to your question but it is complicated. Do your homework, do your homework.
Keep in mind serving in the military is a noble cause and requires commitment and sacrifice but well worth the sacrifice to most. I enjoyed the people and the togetherness. These were my brothers and sisters in arms and I thought of them as brothers and sisters. In some cases they were closer. You will get out of it a certain value that you can not find with any other thing you will do. Its a feeling of well you just can't put your finger on it or label it. Waking up in the morning you will walk proud, confident and strong. You will never again in your life do anything as great as what you did in the service. Regardless, do not miss this opportunity to be great and give to others. You can save lives everyday.
2007-11-12 05:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Jimmy R wrote a novel but its all true/accurate.
2007-11-12 14:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can, but you won't be assigned to the same unit.
2007-11-12 04:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋